Mandy asks…
Your view on having a child “young”?
I was just wondering what peoples views are on “young” pregnancies, like teenpregnancy etc…
because i am 19 now and have a 8 month old baby, i had her when i was 18, she was planned, i am with the father of our child, we have a house and job, but people always said your too young, you won’t cope, your freedoms gone… but my freedom hasn’t gone, i still get all the freedom i want, like a night out every 2 months does me fine, i’m coping very well, her grandparents only have her fri and sat every week, which its natural… she has all she needs and wants… we look after her and do everything for her, she comes first and we know that, we have no regrets at all… we are coping that well we are talking about having another… mainly because we just want her to have a brother or sister to play with, but we are really wanting another and are going to try some day soon i think but what are your views on “young” pregnancies????? Personally i think aslong as you are 16+ and are physically and emotionally ready then it is fine, obv you have to have money and be able to provide for the baby but i think young people shouldn’t get judge as much as they do because not all teens sleep about, having babys to anyone and then neglecting them… some of the younger generation do want a kid to be a family and for the right reasons. i didn’t have mine so i would be loved or anything like that because i had all the love i wanted off my bf but we wanted a baby because we knew we was ready to be a complete family.
THIS QUESTION ISN’T ABOUT ME… I JUST WANT TO KNOW WHATS YOUR VIEW ON ALL “YOUNG” PREGNANCIES??. CURIOUS!. 🙂
🙂 @All Who Commented – thank you all for you feedback and opinions, much appreciated 😀
@rnwallac… – thank you for you feedback and me and my partner are engaged but i didn’t want to put “my fiance” because i knew i would get well if your engaged why aren’t you married if you have a kid etc and i didn’t want to waste time explaining that we are planning on getting married, but we have talked and want a wedding to remember… with our child as a bridesmaid, she isn’t able to walk yet so it would be nice to wait til she can so she can be our bridesmaid… we are focusing on her before getting married, i know it doesn’t cost much for a wedding if you are willing to just go sign a piece of paper and not have everything with it.. but personally i would like a day that me, my fiance and my child can enjoy, with a after party and do it properly… so to your marriage statements i just want to say we are engaged, i just didn’t want people judging me for being engaged and not married when actually we are planning to get married as we have a stro
@rnwallac… – (continued) strong relationship, he proposed on my birthday, unexpectedly but i said yes and we will 1 day… just not this year i don’t think…. thanks for the comment though 🙂
@rnwallac… – oh and sorry to go on lol but the 16+ comment i didn’t mean if your 16+ just go ahead and have a baby, you misunderstood, i meant if your younger then 16 then surly you can’t be ready to have a baby, i am not judging people myself i am just seeing it has under 16 to me is still a kid… even though it is 18 when you are meant to be a adult… no matter if you are say 21.. if you are not physically and emotionally and finacially ready then don’t have 1… i depends on the person not the age i guess.
@Lys – thank you for the feedback…i understand what you are saying about maturity etc, i am not saying i am perfect but i have always been mature, i don’t know if it is how i have been brought up but i have always been careful in so many ways, ive always thought before doing something, like i waited for the right guy to come along before doing stuff, and 16 i met the father of my child and i am 19 now and we are together still taking care of our baby, i never went out drinking in town underage (mainly because i knew what was out there like men that rape etc) so i have always been known as a mature person, mind of a adult kind of thing.. i did childcare at college so that helped me find out more about baby’s etc but before i got pregnant i was ready to give up everything, i took it all in that my life would change.. and made sure we could afford to keep her and give her the best and we are doing that.. i have no regrets at all.. and i am glad how my life has panned out.. i am
@adele – thank you for your wonderful feedback, i really do agree that marriage doesn’t change anything, (if your a good parent getting married won’t make you a better 1 etc).. so i agree with you.. and well i hope your baby is a boy for your baby’s sake (it is no fun being a girl with older brothers and no sister haha i have 2 older brothers 🙁 haha)… good luck with your pregnancy though. 🙂 all the best.
Michelle answers:
There will always be judgmental people out there who have opinions on teenage pregnancy. I myself feel that if your mature, able to nurture a child, give it a stable home and give it all the love and warmth a child needs then what difference does make what your age is. On the other hand there’s the teenagers who have a baby for all the wrong reasons and that’s whats people tend to judge all teenage mothers on and that’s a shame. For example last week i was walking into town it had been snowing the day before so it was really cold, a girl of around 16 was pushing a pushchair with a baby of around 9 month old, the poor baby didn’t have a coat, hat, gloves or blanket! I wanted to stop the girl and say something, but at the end of the day it wouldn’t of done any good. Reading your question warmed my heart, you’re a really good mum who provides everything for her child and doesn’t rely on anyone else for any help. Being married to your partner doesn’t make anyone a better parent so you shouldn’t have to explain yourself to no-one. I had my first child at 19, then 2 years later had my second, 3 years later i had twin boys ( my other 2 are boys too!) I found out a week ago that i’m pregnant again. You and your partner give teenage parents a good name, you’re doing a wonderful job of bringing up your baby. I wish you all the luck in the world for the future and hope a little brother or sister comes along safely, congratulations on your engagement. You both should be very proud xxx May i just add, on reading the other comments for all the judgemental people out there, all my children are to the same father we have been together 13 years and are very happy together. You don’t need to be married to prove your a better parent!!!!
Steven asks…
Which one of these story lines are the most interesting to you? Rate them if you want?
Marie Shore, an un-successful solo photographer, has had enough. She is constantly jumping around to different guys and never keeping one for more than a few months. To top all of that she is also is not selling ANY photos. Once she gives up she finally decides to leave everything in America and ship herself to Paris, France to start over. She only has hope that France appreciates her photos unlike people in America.
Alyssa Bell grew up in the most non-religious family. She was an only child, not wealthy, and would date any guy. What do you think she grow up to be? The same? Or completely different? She ended up single, with 14 kids who have different dads, rich, and VERY religious. This is a comedy about her and her kids.
July Milson is an average teenage girl. But to her she seems like the only normal person in her school. Her school is known for many things; drugs, pregnancies, arrests, shootings, everything. July doesn’t feel safe and knows the consequences for following the others in her school. She’s really smart but will people be able to persuade her?
Mark Stephen, a homeschooled eleven year old boy year old boy, lives in a normal house with one story and a basement. To the world the house is normal. To him the house is very odd. He would be very alert and jumpy when he’s home alone but he would try be out of the house as much as possible at night. He would feel the walls close in, he would hear voices and sounds, and he would feel un-natural wind. But once he sees a small glowing girl in his living room he’s determined to find out the story of the house.
Michelle answers:
All of them are pointless. There’s no conflict. The fourth is the only slightly interesting yet the most.
First One- So what? She goes to France, what’s interesting about this? It’s just someones boring life.
Second one- Comedy about her and her kids? It’s so unlikely. You can’t have lots of kids yet be rich and single and you can’t be religious and have lots of kids from different dads. It’s almost impossible.
Third One- And then what happens?
None of them are full plots. There’s some pretty cliché idea’s on here but at least they’re developed. Try again.
Daniel asks…
Why is the world no longer innocent?
I’m serious. You can search “bunny” and get porn because of stupid Playboy (hate the company, the idiots sell the merchandise to kids!)!
More kids are allowed access to porn by a click of a button. I, in fact, DO have something wrong with this, it’s nasty! I know the number has lowered to 8%, but still, why the hell are teens having pregnancies? It should be illegal in the United States for anyone under 18 to have sex.
Ignoring that topic I oh-so-hate, It’s not natural.
I hate puppy mills. Still don’t see how they are even allowed to be the crap bags of the day. Wish we could outlaw it somehow. If only the world was so easy, I could make a wish, and wars and bullies and mean people and rape and stuff, would go *poof* and we would have a pure world. But again, if it wasn’t for Eve, we wouldn’t have the world we have today.
Some parents just don’t give a shat about their kids, do they? I don’t like those kind of parents that stock up the house tons of food and treats to make their kids fatty fat, FAT fat fatty fat. It’s a KID, not an elephant. No need for them to turn like Jessica (400 lb 7 yr old, lost weight but her stomach has stretched so she feels hungry all the time)
Some emo’s are annoying because of lack of grammar, or saying they want to die over something dumb like: “he hates me waaah im gonna go kill may self “. What? People, I’m sorry, but you only get ONE life. There is absolutely no need to hurt YOURSELF, because it’s not your fault. And there are a lot more “fish in the sea” or “birds in the sky” or even “berries in the bushes.”
Does ANYBODY agree? ANYBODY?
Oops. I meant NOT AS, not NO LONGER.
Michelle answers:
I agree with you about some of the things you listed.
-i agree that this world and the media is completely perverted. Everything has to do with sex jokes. It’s not even humor…
-and i agree puppy mills should be illegal. It makes me cry
-and it’s true a lot of parents dont care about their kids. But there are many parents who put their whole lives into their children (like my parents). They are the best people on this Earth, and i swear by that. But honestly, i think it’s completely sick that some parents dont let their kids even eat junk food! They’re kids! Let them eat cookies before it actually matters.
-and yes, people that complain about their lives are very annoying. I HATE when people complain about break-ups, and stupid sh.t like that. For god’s sake, i went through skull and jaw surgeries. Now that’s something to complain about.
I am saddened by this world today. It needs to be simpler. Good question.
Just be careful though. I posted a question similar to yours last week. Yahoo deleted it because they said i was ranting. How lame..lol
Maria asks…
Anyone else dealt with this? My mare has a Granulosa-cell tumor on her ovaries?
I’ve had my mare since she was a 3-yr old 🙂 she is now 7 and over the past 2 months had quite a change in her behaviour. She’s become moody and shown stallion-like behaviour and has become quite a handful to work with and ride. Originally I thought this could be due to her first season of the year, perhaps she had a hormone imbalance and was actually a moody mare? However, I couldn’t see why she would change at 7, and not earlier. I had her back, teeth, and saddle checked, did some natural horsemanship with her and it did help a bit. I made sure she was worked daily even if I couldn’t get down and varied her work to keep her interested. All this helped up until a few weeks ago.
She hurt herself in the field after trying to mount another horse, and had to be x-rayed. They accidently found the tumour then and have since studied it. It’s extremely large, about >15cm and sits close to her left ovary. It’s changed her hormones and the vet says that at the moment, she’s producing more testosterone than oestrogen. The only way to treat it is for her to have surgery but they can perform it with her standing up.
Has anyone ever dealt with this before? How did your horse cope? How long were they out of work for and did they face any complications? I’ve talked to my vet but I’d like to know of any other owner’s experiences… My mare is also pedigree and I was hoping to put it into foal in a few seasons time…. To me, if she has to have surgery on her ovaries, this will mean future pregnancies will not happen… Can anyone tell me otherwise??
Thank you, any other knowledge or advice would be much appreciated.
Michelle answers:
I don’t have personal experience with it, but I can tell you that if only one ovary is affected, which is typically the case, then there is no reason to believe the mare won’t be fertile and able to breed within the the year in most cases. Each ovary produces eggs, and provided that the right ovary is tumor-free, once the impact of the hormone imbalance from the diseased ovary is removed, normal ovulation will resume in the healthy ovary, and your mare can then be impregnated.
The vet performing the surgery is your best resource for information on expected recovery time, what the follow-up will entail, and what complications might be encountered. All of this should be discussed in advance of the surgery.
Standing laparoscopic removal of ovaries has been performed for many years and has evolved so that complications are minimal and recovery is likely to progress well.
Be sure you are confident in the vet performing the procedure, and don’t be afraid to ask how many of these procedures he or she has performed. Have the vet outline the details of the procedure to be performed, all risks, and potential complications. There should be a surgical permit you are required to sign, and before you sign it, be sure you understand everything included in it. You can also ask if he or she can provide references before you decide to go ahead with the surgery.. The vet may or may not be able to provide names of former clients whose horses have undergone the procedure and who are willing to share their experiences with you. The ability to do that depends on the client’s cooperation due to privacy law issues.
Realize that there are always risks with any surgical procedure, and learning about them can scare you off. But your mare needs to have this tumor removed, and it is fortunate that today this can be done laparoscopically with minimal risks.
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