Is it weird that i don’t want to get married or have kids?

I just don’t think that pregnancy or marriage is for me. I am 13 and i know that i am a bit young to be thinking about this but i can’t help but think about it. My parents have been married for 15 years and have two kids (me and my 9 year old brother) They always fight and they can’t agree about anything. I can’t help but think that they have wasted their lives slaving away in boring jobs trying to provide for me and my brother. (my mum works in a nursery and my dad is a banker)

I have my life all planned out. I want to leave school with good exam results and join sea Shepherd for two or three years. I want to get a well paid job when i am not in Antarctica or Taiji bay with Sea Shepherd. I then plan on starting a charity or an organization to reintroduce species of animals to the wild. (such as wolves to the Scottish highlands or lions to North America) Or a charity to supporting homeless runaways or an organization for better conditions in zoos and labratories for animals across the world. I plan to find someone who i love and who has the same beliefs as me. I just don’t plan on getting married in case it all goes wrong. Marriage also seems like the end of youth and freedom and the start of stress and ageing.

I am also scared by the pain of giving birth and a baby seems like such a massive responsibility. And you are still stuck with them when they turn 18. I love children and babies and they are fun to babysit but i think that they just get in the way of your life. I have done a few babysitting jobs and i have helped out at my local stables and animal charity and i love animals more than children if i am honest. I love animals and i want to preserve the natural world for future generations.

My whole family loves children and they think it is wrong not to have a child unless you physically can’t. My friends all think the same. A few days ago we started the conversation of babies and children. They all said that they wanted to get married and have children in their early twenties. They asked me when i wanted to have children and i told them that i didn’t plan on ever getting married or having children. They were shocked. They all said that it was wrong to think like that. I said that the world population was at 7 billion and that i was doing the world a favour. They then said that humans are the best species of animal and that we are far better than any species of animal. I got into a huge debate about it with them.

My parents and i then started a discussion about retirement over dinner last night and my mum said “I can’t wait until you have kids Luisa!” I felt so guilty about my desicion never to have kids at that point. she then started talking about how she couldn’t wait for me to get married and how she was so excited about seeing my ring and my dress. I told her that i was too young to be thinking about that sort of thing. my mum just said “of course, I’m getting ahead of myself.” But you couldn’t miss the excitement in her eyes. I just know that when i do tell her that i don’t want to have children she will be so dissapointed in me. I feel like it is my duty to have children to please my parents. But then another part of me remembers that i have a cause to fight for and that i want to change the world for the better. So my questions are really “am i wrong not to have children?” and “Is it weird that i don’t want kids or to get married”

Did sex start labor for you?? If not what did?

The last time I “did it” I gave my self very strong braxton hicks..and they lasted for days….I was miserable. It was painful and I couldn’t sleep.
That was a few weeks ago. I didn’t want to go thru that again so I laid off on the old..s,e,x…lol. Now that I’m 38 weeks. I’m wondering if it will start things for me. I’ve been reading and it seems the most effective way to start labor yourself is to have sex..but it doesn’t work for anyone…did it work for you? I know walking helps…but…apart from walking around stores ..I can’t go walking..since the ground is SO snowy and icy…
The baby weighs about 8 1/2 lbs already and is at station -1….so as you can imagine I’m VERY uncomfortable…
I know its all part of the late pregnancy thing. This is my 2nd baby..the reason I’m so eager to go into labor is because I’m at risk for another c-section. Which I HATED..I didn’t want one..but HAD to have one.the recovery was AWFUL! I had to take pain meds that made me loopy..I just hated it lol. I don’t want one this time because I will never be able to have kids the natural way after that. This is my last chance!! no dr’s around here will do VBAC’s after a 2nd c-section.
If the baby isn’t born naturally by the week of my due date..They are just going to give me a c-section. I really don’t want that 🙁

So did sex work for you? If not..what did? ?
I have IBS and I’m anemic…so I’m not taking anything to start labor…lol…
Castor oil is like..begging for diarrhea..and with IBS?? no thanks lol
I can ask for an induction..they wont do it.

becasue of the c-section.. the scar is more likely to tear from the pitocin

should i have had a c-section?

my daughter is 8 months old and i had a c-section i think i have ppd. i cry for no reason and everytime i think about my c-section and how the docter and everyone in the room laughed at me. the docter also told me the only way he would deliver my daughter was a c-section i was 9 months and this is when he decided to tell me. he said i have a narrow pelvis. i weighted 245 at the end of my pregnancy. yea she was born healthy and but im a single mother and was living with my grandmother (shes 69) so i had no help . i had told him that and he didnt care i had a scheduled c-section he also told me that if i didnt show he wouldnt deliver my daughter and no other docter would either. he did a sloppy job on my c-section and im still im pain 8 1/2 months later. now people are telling me that i will never experience natural childbirth is it true pls help!!!
they laughed cuz i said i didnt want to go through with it anymore . also he had scheduled it the day of my 18 bday and i said no so it was the day after

Yay im soo happy today! We made it?

I miscarried back on the 8th of Oct. i think i was around 7 8 weeks but not sure because i never made it to my dating ultrasound :(. I was devastated as i never expected to miscarry as i have a healthy 3 yr old boy. Both the doctor at the ER and my doctor told me is was ok to start trying again after my bleeding stopped as it was a natural miscarriage and bleeding lasted 5 days. I was still a little bit weird about trying so soon so my fiance and i sat down and spoke about how we both felt and accepted our loss. After we talked we felt so much better and we were looking forward to the future. We had sex again just over 2 weeks after i miscarried and to my surprise fell pregnant! I was very skeptical about being pregnant again and tried not to think about it so i wouldnt be scared or stress. I waited 10 weeks before i went for my dating ultrasound which was last week. I laid down and waited for nothing to come up on the screen, even though i had been sick for the past 5 weeks before and knew i was pregnant i still didnt think it was true. So the ultrasound lady put the thing on my tummy and within 2 seconds she said im glad your laying down right now, because you have twins! I froze, blanked out and it felt like i was dreaming! i expected to be pregnant but never thought it would be with twins. But we are over the moon and today is our 12 week mark! So we are so happy today! We are hoping and praying for a healthy pregnancy and a healthy birth of our twins!

Baby dust to all trying to conceive!
Just remember stop trying and stop stressing it will happen!!