Ken asks…
My friend is pregnant…can you answer this?
So, I have a 23 year old friend who is married and is expecting her first baby. This is piling the pressure on because she’s in uni and really wants to have a baby. So, I want to know what sorta things she’d go through, partly so I can reassure her, partly so I know when I get pregnant when I’m older. Here goes….
1. How do you know when you’re in labour? What do you feel?
2. Births: Water, c section, natural, what do they all mean and which is best?
3. What do contractions and birth feel like?
4. Any pain relief they can give you? We’re both phobic to needles so there would have to be a numbing thing……epidural perhapsish?
5. Any way to make birth easier?
6. What are inducers? How do they work and are they good?
and anything else you can think of about pregnancy and birth etc…
Thanks!
Michelle answers:
I agree that you should buy the book “what to expect when expecting”
I have that book & its AMAZING.
It tells me everything.
Or go to whattoexpect.com
Mandy asks…
A fun little survey for Mommies :)?
Was your bundle of joy a surprise?
Nope:)
How long did it take for you to realize you were pregnant?:
6 weeks
Where were you when you found out?:
My bathroom lol
Who were you with?:
My boyfriend(her daddy)
Was adoption or abortion an option?:
NOOO
How did you tell the Dad?:
He was there with me lol
Were you married at the time?:
Nope
If not did you get married because you were pregnant?:
No but hopefully one day we will get married 🙂
Where was the baby conceived?:
Lol I don’t know probably my room haha
Reactions
Yours?:
Ohh my goodness!
Dads?:
Oh wow
His Parents?:
“I knew this was gonna happen!” lol
Your parents?:
“WHAT!?” lol
Siblings?:
“What??” lol
Friends?:
AWW
Pregnancy
Did you like being pregnant?:
loved it 🙂
Did you want to wait to find out the sex?:
No I wanted to find out soon as possible
Did you have any complications?:
No
Did you crave anything?:
Everything! haha
Did you sleep alot?:
I was hardly ever awake! lol
Towards the end how were you?:
Moody! haha
Did the dad support you?:
Yes
Did you have any mid night cravings?:
Ohh yes!
Would you do it again?:
When I’m older
Labor and Delivery
What were you doing when you went into labor?:
Playing on the computer lol
Did you get drugs?:
Nope all natural 🙁
Who drove you to the hospital?:
My boyfriend(her daddy)
Vaginal or C-section?:
Vaginal :O
How long?:
7hours
If yo got drugs, how long were you in labor until you got them?:
I didn’t get any
Was it as bad as everyone said?:
Yup!
What did you think the first time you realized it was “almost time” for him/her:
I was in shock!
What did you think the first time you heard him/her cry?:
Oh my gosh that’s my baby!
Your first reaction whe you seen him/her?:
I was in love 🙂 she was/is perfect
Dads first reaction?:
Shes so tiny!
Who was the first person to come and visit you?:
Everyone came!! Lol
How long did you stay?:
3 days
Postpardum:
What was the first day home like?:
Amazing
Did you have any trouble?:
No
How long did it take you to reacover?:
She’s almost 5 weeks and still not all the way recovered
Did anyone come to visit?:
Everyone
Did you let just anyone hold the baby?:
My family and friends
How did Dad do?:
Amazing 🙂 he changed all the dirty diapers haha
What is it like being a mommy?:
The best feeling in the whole wide world!
Is your baby difficult or easy?:
Easy 🙂
How old is your baby now?:
Almost 5 weeks
Colicy?:
Nope
Boy or Girl:
Girl
Lol yes alot of questions! I didn’t wanna just put a few cause that would be boring haha
Michelle answers:
Was your bundle of joy a surprise?
Yes and no. We had been TCC with out any luck for about 4 years. After many negative pregnancy test I was surprised to finally be pregnant!
How long did it take for you to realize you were pregnant?:
About 6 weeks also
Where were you when you found out?:
Our bathroom of course. Then I walked shocked out into the bedroom. It was four in the morning!
Who were you with?:
Husband of five years (conceived on our fifth anniversary!)
Was adoption or abortion an option?:
Absolutely not!!!
How did you tell the Dad?:
I walked out of the bathroom in pure shock and basically just nodded my head.
Were you married at the time?:
Yes
If not did you get married because you were pregnant?:
Where was the baby conceived?:
Our bedroom I’m assuming
Reactions
Yours?:
totally and utterly shocked
Dads?:
Are you sure?
His Parents?:
My husband was actually home for a few days from a military school when I took the test. The weird thing is I had a GYN checkup appt the following day. They confirmed I was pregnant. I had already asked both sets of parents over for dinner as a surprise since he was home. We decided to tell them. His dad said he just knew that I had invited them over to announced I was pregnant (even though that wasn’t the case)
Your parents?:
Finally!!!
Siblings?:
n/a didn’t find out until a year later…blah!
Friends?:
Yay! One close friend became pregnant six months later!
Pregnancy
Did you like being pregnant?:
I loved being pregnant with the big belly and attention you get!
Did you want to wait to find out the sex?:
I wanted to wait until my husband could be with me but just couldn’t! (five months is too long to wait!)
Did you have any complications?:
No
Did you crave anything?:
Fresh squeezed lemonade and Dairy Queen blizzards
Did you sleep alot?:
Unfortunately no. Worked full time (no husband for first five months of pregnancy) and had severe back pain due to tailbone injury.
Towards the end how were you?:
Grumpy as I was very uncomfortable
Did the dad support you?:
Yes
Did you have any mid night cravings?:
No
Would you do it again?:
Hoping to be pregnant now! Fingers crossed!
Labor and Delivery
What were you doing when you went into labor?:
I was induced for being overdue
Did you get drugs?:
Of course!
Who drove you to the hospital?:
My husband
Vaginal or C-section?:
Vaginal
How long?:
10 hours
If yo got drugs, how long were you in labor until you got them?:
a couple hours I think???
Was it as bad as everyone said?:
Since I got the epidural it was fantastic!
What did you think the first time you realized it was “almost time” for him/her:
I was a nervous wreck!
What did you think the first time you heard him/her cry?:
Is he okay!
Your first reaction whe you seen him/her?:
Wow!
Dads first reaction?:
in awe!
Who was the first person to come and visit you?:
I don’t remember. So many people came.
How long did you stay?:
2 days only because I couldn’t find a medication to stop my episiotomy pain. Next time, I’m going home asap. It was awful being woke up every thirty minutes!
Postpartum:
What was the first day home like?:
A blur but obviously very calm as I don’t remember too much about it.
Did you have any trouble?:
SEVERE episiotomy pain
How long did it take you to recover?:
about a full week for the episiotomy
Did anyone come to visit?:
A few
Did you let just anyone hold the baby?:
Only people I trusted
How did Dad do?:
I was a trooper! He had to take care him the first night (in the hospital) because I couldn’t move without pain (didn’t even have a c-section either!)
What is it like being a mommy?:
It feels so natural. I don’t remember what it was like before.
Is your baby difficult or easy?:
super easy!
How old is your baby now?:
20 months
Colicky?:
No just acid reflux
Boy or Girl:
Boy
Maria asks…
I need advice on my marriage!?
I am 19 and have a six month old son and I am pregnant with twins. My husband is very old fashioned and expects me to cook clean and take care of him, the kids, and the house. I am fine with this but I’m already tired and he wants me to follow the same schedule that I did when I wasn’t pregnant and when I was pregnant with just one baby.
which is:
1. Do all nighttime baby care
2. Wake him up at 6:30
3. Have a full breakfast and the newspaper ready by 7
4. Clean the whole house top to bottom every day
5. Have the children fed and clean and in the play pen by 5:30
6. Have dinner hot and ready by the time he walks in the door at 5:30
7. Clean up dinner by 7
8. Put the babies to bed by 8
9. turn down the bed by nine
10. be showered and in sexy lingerie by 10
11. Make passionate and wild love to him
12. Start it all over again.
He has told me that I will follow this same schedule through the pregnancy and the birth of the babies. Also he has told me that I have to buy bigger maternity lingerie because he won’t stand for it if I don’t make love to him every night. I told him I might be to tired and he went into a rage saying that I am his wife and I will do as he says and that if I am to tired I can pack my bags and go live with my mother for the next nine months and he’ll find someone else to make love to him until I get my act together. I am worried that if I don’t do as he says he’ll kick me out or worse cheat on me. He says we will make love until my due date and that i will make love to him the second I get home from the hospital. Also I will be having an all natural vaginal birth. My husband is thirty and I am 19. If anyone could give me advice on anything in here it would be much appreciated! Thanks in advance.
I can’t leave him because I love him and really it’s my fault that he gets so mad because I provoke him. As his wife I should do as he says. I just need advice on how to get through the next 6 months.
my baby is 6 months old not 19 months. I’m 19
this is a real post and I don’t know why everyone thinks I’m joking and why everyone thinks he’s abusive. I love him and he loves me! All I wanted was advice on how to keep up the schedule NOT your personal opinons.
Michelle answers:
He’s delusional!!!Pregnant women have very litttle stamina.I was working a 2nd job during each of my wife’s,and trying to help with chores as much as I could.(Dishes,Laundry,yardwork,and cooking.)My mother in law lived with us for some of the time,and she was a big help.Having sex while pregnant is like watching sumo wrestling;It ain’t pretty.And very little lingerie is made for maternity cases.Tell him you need his help,split the cooking and laundry-have him do dishes the last trimester.If he refuses,invite your mother to move in until after the baby is born.My wife squealed like a stuck pig everytime she felt bad while walking or moving.Tell him he helps or you will be inviting relatives to help you instead.
James asks…
Why do liberal Christians promote big-government dependency programs over charity?
Jesus taught, “Freely have you received, freely give.” His own example and the parable of the Good Samaritan show us that charity is short-term help for those who have had an unforeseen setback. He also taught in many parables that we are to act prudently to care for ourselves and our families.
http://www.bcbsr.com/survey/jpbl.html
* The wise man builds on rock, not sand.
* You don’t sew new cloth on an old garment or put new wine in old wineskins.
* You buy a field to recover a treasure or invest in a valuable pearl.
* You patiently grow crops or fish and throw out the bad stuff later.
* You search for a lost animal or a lost coin until you find it.
* You don’t complain when others are paid the same amount for less work.
* You plan ahead to keep your lamp filled with oil.
* You invest your money instead of burying it.
* You don’t expect praise for carrying out your duties.
* You humbly take the lowest seat instead of expecting to be treated like royalty.
* You carefully consider the cost of building a tower.
Given Jesus’ teachings, why do liberal Christians promote dependency programs that provide a semi-permanent salary for school failure, addiction, illegitimate pregnancy, poor work habits, and similar avoidable failings? The money for these programs is not freely given, and the recipients are shielded from the natural consequences of their failings, removing any motivation to change their behavior.
Is this a reasonable interpretation of the gospel: That God expects individual charity and self-help, and that he expects us not to render these responsibilities unto Caesar?
StevenJ, aside from evading the question, are you saying that hypocritical preachers negate the teachings of Jesus?
WitnessofJesus, isn’t it a gospel teaching to be content with your pay (Luke 3:14) and to accept the wages you agreed on (see Matt 20:14-15) rather than claiming to be “oppressed in your wages”? Wage oppression is Marxism, not Christianity, the religion of freedom.
Bluepeahen, if liberal Christians didn’t support big-government dependency programs, these programs would never be enacted. My guess is that they confuse coercive income redistribution with charity.
Johnny, Matt 25 is about a test for going to heaven or hell. The government can’t get us to heaven, but it can make hell on earth. The dependency programs, for example, are inducing young girls to get pregnant in high school, essentially ruining their lives and producing a generation of children raising themselves.
Michelle answers:
Why does anyone promote big government dependency?
Especially people who claim to care about the poor, about minorities who don’t get as much of a chance– don’t they realize that by promoting dependence they are just helping to keep people down?
It’s like being a parent– you can try to pacify and coddle your kids, but in the long run you’re not helping them becaus you are making them dependent, which ultimately obliterates their self esteem and their ability to cope with problems. On the other hand, you can be there to help them with what they need by pointing them to the best resources and showing them the best methods so they can learn to take care of themselves, ultimately making the self-sufficient, capable people.
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