What do you think about the beginning of this story?

I’m not sure if I’m going to continue with it. I realize that there were some grammatical errors, and what not. This really isn’t my section of writing. Let me know what you think, though. Thanks! 🙂

What I liked to do was create personas. I did it well, too. Sitting in this falling apart library, no one would think my parents were the richest people in the country; not by a long shot. My natural looks were nothing like the ones I was portraying. My library card even had a fake name. I had to pay extra for not having my parents around to sign the papers, not that it mattered, though.
I was wearing torn up shorts and an old plaid shirt I had found at goodwill. My shoes were scuffed up converse. My blonde hair was pulled back, and stuffed into a hat. My blonde eyebrows were penciled a shade of dark brown. A quick look at me, you might think I had cancer; or, maybe, I was just a poor country girl.
I didn’t want people to know that my dad was the man who found a cure for brain cancer, all by himself, and was on the way to curing all cancers; and my mother was a woman who didn’t give a damn about the starving children in Africa, because all that mattered to her was material things.
I turned a page in an old library book. The librarian glared at me. “It’s closing time. I suspect you aren’t checking that book out; you never check anything out. I don’t know why you bought a library card, much less paid 100 dollars for it.” I couldn’t bring library books home, because my mother said library books were for poor people. I folded the page of the book, and stuck it on the shelf. The librarian cleared her throat. “How many times must I tell you? Don’t fold the pages of a book that isn’t yours.”
I shrugged, leaving the library without another word. My bike was waiting for me, just outside of the library. I took off the hat and undid my hair, letting the long curls fall freely. I biked for about 30 minutes until I reached the large mansion that my parents called home. I hated it, truthfully. It was about 50,000 square feet, and I couldn’t find my way around for the life of me. The butler opened the door for me. My mother stood inside, pacing around. “Thank god! Where have you been? I tried calling your phone, like, 20 times! What are you wearing, and what the hell is wrong with your make-up?”
Ever since we moved here a month ago, my mom had become increasingly worried. She thought the poor people might mug me. Her pregnancy was also making her nervous. I already had one younger brother, I didn’t think this one was necessary.

Which birth control is best when your mom doesn’t know and you can’t “talk to a doctor”?

I need help. I’m 16. I have recently become sexually active for the first time, my boyfriend has for the first time as well…he is 18. My mother, however, does not know this, she would flip. My boyfriend’s mother does, and she is strongly pushing me to take birth control pills. My mom is an RN, ER nurse, Home Health nurse, etc. Now, recently my aunt (my mom’s sister) died from taking a drug that is supposed to help you conceive. She wanted children very badly and for some reason couldn’t conceive, hence-her taking this drug. In the fine print of the contract my aunt signed it said that if you don’t conceive you have a 50% (something ridiculous like that) chance of getting ovarian cancer. My aunt didn’t care however, unfortunately she didn’t conceive. She died from Ovarian Cancer about a year ago. I do not want any type of cancer (nor does anyone i’m sure, but it worries me very much). While my aunt was sick, she would send many e-mails and constantly be telling us not to take anything that messes with your body’s hormones or even just messes with anything. My aunt would never eat anything non -organic, she always shopped at Trader Joe’s, and the works…this was even before the cancer, which is why is was such a huge shock to my family.
So now, I am feeling strongly inclined to take birth control pills due to the fact that i am sexually active. I am using condoms, but i would like to be positive i won’t get pregnant-and maybe not use them sometimes..? It would be nice, but i haven’t yet cause of fear. I am so used to being able to talk about these things with my mother, but there is no way i can tell her i am sexually active. She would FLIP. I am the oldest, and i don’t think she would let me see my boyfriend. I have tried to say “Hey mom, what about taking birth control for these bad mood swings and cramps?” she quickly responds. “Absolutely, positively not. You saw what happened to your aunt because of these hormone pills, birth control messes with your natural body. Your aunt would be devastated if she knew, and she has put so much effort into making sure you don’t do things like take birth control. Birth control causes breast cancer, and breast cancer is in the top five killers of women in the nation.” This scared me for awhile. I have told my boyfriend’s mom this, and she is certainly not making me do anything i’m not comfortable with. Except i don’t know what i’m comfortable with…I feel now that it would be A LOT better for my mom to find out i am on birth control somehow, than to find out i’m pregnant. I went to the Local Free Health Clinic for my county like my boyfriends mom said to do. They weren’t extremly helpful, considering i had no idea what i was doing. They asked a few questions and gave me some birth control i’d never heard of. I knew a friend was on Ortho Tri Cyclen, so i asked for that. I took the first two pills then asked my mom the question above. Her response scared me so i stopped taking the pills. I am back to being scared of pregnancy. I don’t know which brand i should take, and cannot go see my doctor to find out without my mom knowing. I’m just scared and i feel that i should let my body do things naturally and i’ve always been taught natural is usually better in most cases. I don’t smoke, have no histories of cancer except my aunt-who everyone thinks got it from those “conceiving drugs.” I guess i’m mostly just worried about Ortho Tri Cyclen and which one i should take. ALL of my girl friends are taking Yaz. Please help. I don’t want to gain weight, but less seriously, wouldn’t mind a big breast increase 🙂
BTW, if you’re not gonna read the whole thing–don’t answer. Thanks.

What methods of contraception are the most effective?

I read a Janet Smith article for an Ethics course, and it mentioned Natural Family Planning as the most effective method of contraception.
Is this true? Is NFP more effective than the pill, condoms + spermicide, an IUD or a plain old vasectomy or tubal ligation?

It doesn’t seem to be so, I remember reading that an egg and sperm can remain in the body for days (?) ..If a woman has sex the day she is before to begin ovulating, isnt there a huge risk of pregnancy?

Thanks a lot, also, please state sources. I’ll help you with any questions you have as well, quid pro quo.
🙂

what baby books do i need to read? recommend any?

i recently found out i was pregnant, im going to be a single mother, but my family are very supportive, i have a good, secure job and savings, the father is happy to be in his baby’s life and told me he can afford to look after my baby when he or she is born (give me a few good nights sleep, help with house work etc. despite the fact that he is in a long term relationship with another woman and doesnt live with me, or near me. she is obviously very unhappy, but has been considerate for the baby’s sake.)

i am 20years old and this is my first child, i am very nervous about different changes in my body and want to know what is natural and what is abnormal, is there any books you could recommend which deal with the stages of pregnancy in detail? also are there any books out there specifically for single mothers, and how to cope with day to day life? i also would like a child care book as i have only ever baby sat in the past. i know first aid, but id like a good parenting book which targets the early age group, (eg when should they do this that and tother? etc)

i know baby books cant possibly prepare you for the real thing but it would help settle me and give me something to do.