Lizzie asks…
Is pregnancy something to be afraid of?
My husband and I just started trying to conceive but I have heard so much bad stuff about pregnancy such as women die during delivery, infections happening, stuff going wrong with the baby and I am terrified of needles so the idea of a fat needle going in my spinal cord scares me.We are very excited and we are ready after 4 yrs of marriage. My family is VERY fertile but I have irregular periods – They were regular on birth control – (I stopped birth control April 1st 2011). We have only been trying since May 5th 2011, so It may be too soon to tell if I am pregnant or not but I don’t have “pregnancy” symptoms such as sore breast, cramping, etc.. Should I just relax and wait to see what happens? It’s driving me crazy. i never knew that planning for a baby would make me so anxious. We are just doing the natural and waiting. We are not really trying we are just doing because trying can be too stressful. I am 29 years old (the same age that my mom was when she had me) We don’t have any diseases that run in the family but my mom did have a miscarriage once due to abuse. (Does miscarriage run in the family???) Just curious.
Michelle answers:
Pregnancy is nothing to be afraid of. Unfortunately some women have awful pregnancy experiences but most women have wonderful pregnancies! It is an amazing thing to go through and things going wrong are not as common as you would think. Remember you will always hear the worst horror stories which will stick with you but you won’t hear the millions of happy ones!
In my opinion, the best way to fall pregnant is to just not think about it and let nature take it’s course. Have fun with your husband and try not to dwell too much on symptoms until you are actually pregnant. If you want to speed up the process, you can buy ovulation predictor kits which will tell you when you are ovulating. I fell pregnant both times by letting nature have it’s say and it took me 2 months the first time and 7 months the second.
Miscarriages are unfortunately also something which can happen but that are not genetic so they don’t run in the family. The most common cause is an abnormality in the fetus which makes the fetus stop growing and naturally miscarries. There is NOTHING you can do to stop it so worrying about it is pointless. One miscarriage also doesn’t mean you will have another. In fact the odds go up of a successful pregnancy after a single miscarriage!
I hope that helps a bit. Fall pregnant first and then worry about how you will give birth. You can always choose natural with no pain medication which means no needles at all 🙂
Good luck!
Robert asks…
confused and scared positive pregnancy test help?
Hello first i should tell you why im scared i have a beautiful 3year old daughter and i have 3miscarriages under my belt after having my daughter my last one was the beginning of the year
Ive had one natural miscarriage at 15.5 weeks i lost twins the 2nd was at 9weeks and the most recent was at 7weeks the last two was d&c and i was told that i had low progesterone and if if got a positive test to start taking these pills again so i took one this morning after i got a positive ….i was NOT trying to get pregnant im scared it will end in heartbreak again and i don’t think i can mentally handle another miscarriage so soon the part that i am mostly scared of is i had a Xray on my wrist this last friday and i couldn’t remember when my period was and they didn’t test me for pregnancy so yeah im worried about that and i smoke i started smoking again after my last miscarriage. and i do heavy lifting at work…im so scared that this pregnancy has no chance because of the xray the lifting and the smoking.
I have had some light cramping i know this is normal during the first stage of pregnancy i took 2 test the first one was early this morning and it was very light so i waited a couple of hours and tested again..and it was slightly darker…very noticeable and showed up within seconds…..
What do i do? How do i tell my husband. we both didn’t want to try again because of the last heartbreak im happy but im scared all i could do was cry when i saw the positive because i want a baby so badly but i don’t want to get attached to a baby and then have a miscarriage again
Michelle answers:
A wrist x-ray will not hurt you in any way.
Thomas asks…
**** 2 weeks late – Still neg pregnancy tests? please advise ****?
Hello,
I am 22 years old and my husband and i are ttc with our 1st.
I had a miscarriage @ 6 weeks in July and the doctor adv to have 1 natural period and to try again.
I had my last period 22nd September (6 weeks a go)
I am having all of the same pregnancy symptoms as before – Swollen tummy, Period-Like pains (2-3 weeks now) urinating more often and feeling sick though i did a Pregnancy test yesterday and still got a neg response.
I have been to the docs and he was very unhelpful and said to re test next week!
Please help peeps :o) Thank you!!! x x x x
Ps; When i was pregnant in July my test showed positive @ 5 weeks!!!
Michelle answers:
Sometimes we stress ourselves out so much about being or not being pregnant that our body gets confused and actually believes its pregnant. I once was so stressed about being pregnant. I took 3 home pregnancies and they came back negative but still no period. I finally went to the doctor after 7 weeks with out a period and he said I was not pregnant. That put me more at ease and 3 days later I got my period.
Daniel asks…
tilted uterus in pregnancy??
hi all, 3 months ago i had a natural m/c at 5 wks, going from my dates im 7wks 5days preg again, i had an early scan today and was quite clear and seen the lil heartbeat fluttering away and all looked okay so far. i have a dating scan in 4weeks time. is there a high chance i may have a successful pregnancy this time????
also today the m/w said that i have a tilted uterus, does that have any complications???
any advise would be grateful, very anxious 20 yr old xxx
Michelle answers:
I have a tilted uterus and the only thing I ever had was some back pain later in the pregnancy also sex is a little uncomfortable because the vaginal canal goes back a little it’s not straight. I was told I had this with my 1st. I have had miscarriages but due to my PCOS not my uterus. I have a healthy 9 month old son and I’m 16 weeks along with #2. I’m 25 years old. It is natural to worry and with your previous loss you have every reason to. BUT most women who have had a loss go on to have a healthy pregnancy about 80 percent. You have a higher chance of having a healthy baby than you do of having another loss. Also a tilted uterus is not a big deal the uterus fills up as baby gets bigger (kind of like a balloon) and it will sit in a normal position when you get further along. But it just rests more towards the back and not the front (normally it sits forwards on the bladder). Your born with it like that and about 30 percent of women have a tilted uterus and a very very rare few women have tilted so far that they have a hard time getting preg. At all ( but that’s not the case with you or I). Hope I helped good luck and congrats.
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