Steven asks…
Pregnant and feeling “territorial?” with another person’s child in the home?
Parents: Please do not judge me or jump me about this question. I am VERY pregnant and have been remarried for over two years. My husband has a 6 year old son, I have one of my own, but he is 18 years old and in college (teen mom) Anyways, maybe it is just pure “nature” or a mix of a mega dose of hormones but I am very, very moody and getting territorial with this pregnancy. Here is the major problem, the 6 year old has the only other bedroom filled to the roof with everything under the sun and I don’t even have room for a crib in this entire house and we can’t move due to financial reasons. “This” pregnancy is no big deal to anyone, including family. My MIL even told me to put this baby in the closet!!!!!!!
Why am I getting so very moody and feeling like a mama bird with an egg without a nest to put it in? I got so moody last night I jumped all over my husband and told him, “Fine! When “your” son comes over, I’ll just go stay in a hotel room until it is all clear for me to come back home so that you and your royal highness can have all of the space you need!” Yikes!!! What is going on with me? Anybody else gone or is going through these “feelings?” Is it just a “natural” feeling while pregnant, or what?
Please do not call me mean, or wicked or anything, this is a very “emotional and hormonal” pregnancy this time and I want to be a good parent in this very blended family! I am a very cool mom normally???! Yikes again!
Thanks in advance!
Oh! I LOVE my step son! It is my husband and the rest of his family that are ticking me off! Sad thing though is nothing will be willing to be “cleared” out of that bedroom. A closet???! OMG
Josephine, my lovely, if you were in my situation, with these hormones, you would be a total bit** too. Good thing you are not here in my face.
Michelle answers:
Look, you’re going to keep that baby near you for the first six months to a year of life anyway, aren’t you? Put a cosleeper cot next to your bed, so you can feed the kid at three in the morning without having to wake up fully and stand up. Your room has a door on it, doesn’t it? Your baby will need a quiet place, and that seems like the best place to me for the near term.
Eventually, the six year old will be sharing his room with his little brother (if it is a brother) if you don’t move, but in the short term, the six year old needs a place where he can play and have fun…and NOT DISTURB his little sibling. What other option is there? Put the kid on the pull out couch, and let him scatter his toys across the living room? Turn your dining area into a Grand Central Station nursery?
When the kids are older, if you’re still in that house, you can look into temporary/adjustable walls to subdivide the one child’s room you have, if need be, but that’s a long way away.
You adjust. I used a walk in closet as a bedroom for one of my kids for two years–it was plenty of room for her, and she was right nearby. Cozy, actually–enough room for a crib and a changing table/bureau. I had to put all my stuff on hangers on a rack in the corner of my room, but it worked well enough.
Go get a pedicure and a footrub…you will feel better for so doing. And remember this–these feelings WILL pass. Don’t get too wrapped up in them; they’ll be gone before you know it.
Good luck, RELAX….!!
Sandy asks…
Why do Conservatives think abstinence prevents pregnancy?
Yeah, nice one. I started my periods at the age of 11, as did many girls in my class. So don’t teach girls how to prevent pregnancy until they’re married, when they’re starting to mature earlier and earlier? How exactly is THAT going to help the teen pregnancy statistics? Also, so much NONSENSE about the sacred “innocence” of children. Children are NATURALLY curious, they will explore their sexuality regardless of anything. I know that I and many of my classmates did exactly that. And guess what – it’s NATURAL. Why does it make kids “not innocent” to follow their own natural impulses? Such restrictive, old-fashioned, guilt-ridden garbage.
Michelle answers:
Actuallly not having sex decrease’s your chance of becoming pregnant by 100%.
May not be realistic but it does……
Carol asks…
Pregnancy/Labour/Baby Survey :)?
I’m extremely bored due to the decrease in questions on here LOL. So here goes. I’ll do my answers then do yours 🙂
PREGNANCY:
-What were your first symptoms?
Sore boobs! Definitely! I felt like a heavyweight boxer had used them as punching bags!
-How many weeks when you first heard baby’s heartbeat?
10
-How many weeks were you when you saw baby?
8+6.
-How many weeks were you when you found out baby’s sex?
22+3. After trying for 3 scans! Stubborn baby!
-When did you first feel baby move/kick?
Move – 15+3. Kick – 18ish weeks.
-When did you start showing?
Around 19 weeks but I got big and round at 25 weeks.
-Did you have any complications or was your pregnancy easy?
It was okay, apart from when I developed SPD at 26 weeks. Agony!
-Best and Worst things about your pregnancy?
Best, knowing my baby was in there growing! Worst, the pain.
-Overall, did you enjoy your pregnancy?
Yes! Loved it.
LABOUR:
-How many weeks were you when you went into labour?
39+4
–Natural or Induced?
Natural
-How did you know when you were going into labour?
When them “Braxton Hicks” were 4 minutes apart and SO painful.
-Were you calm or did you panic?
I’ve had midwifery training so knew what to do and thought this would make me be calm. Boy, was I wrong. I full on panicked!
-Did you go to hospital straight away?
When I realized it was the real thing.. yes.
-What drugs did you have?
Just Gas&Air.
-Who was your birthing partner(s)?
My mum and best friend.
-Did you dilate quickly?
NO 🙁 I was stuck at 3cm for hours, they became concerned so I was put on the drip where I went from 3-9 in an hour.
-How long were you in labour for?
14 hours.
-How long were you pushing/In surgery if you had a C-SEC?
I pushed for 46 minutes.
-Separate from the pain, did you enjoy labour?
Best thing I’ve ever done!
BABY:
-What time was baby born?
3:09AM
-Boy or Girl?
Boy.
-Name? (If you want to.)
Kyran.
-Weight?
6lb 8oz.
-Length?
20.5 Inches.
YOU:
-How long did it take for you to recover?
Around 4 weeks for pain to go and bleeding to stop.
-How did you feel after labour?
Tired but soooo proud and full of love for my son.
-Do you enjoy being a mummy?
LOVE IT.
NOW:
-How old is baby now?
12 weeks.
-Milestones?
Holds his head up and I’ve finally got a real smile 😀
Breast or Bottle?
-Breast.
-Best thing about being a mummy, for you?
Watching him grow everyday and learn new things! Its so fun to watch him develop and be rewarded with cuddles and smiles <3
Hope you liked! Thinking up them questions definitely killed some time for me 🙂
Michelle answers:
PREGNANCY:
-What were your first symptoms?
Throwing up alot with no fever
-How many weeks when you first heard baby’s heartbeat?
13
-How many weeks were you when you saw baby?
17
-How many weeks were you when you found out baby’s sex?
I didn’t find out until she was born, even after 3 ultrasounds…but I called her a girl for the entire pregnancy because of a gut feeling.
-When did you first feel baby move/kick?
Move – 14 weeks Kick – 18ish weeks.
-When did you start showing?
Around the 4th month, so about 18 weeks
-Did you have any complications or was your pregnancy easy?
9 months of morning sickness…I threw up on the bus, at the train terminal, in a cab and over the side of my mother’s van MANY times.
-Best and Worst things about your pregnancy?
Best, the kicks! Worst…morning sickness
-Overall, did you enjoy your pregnancy?
Yes! Loved it.
LABOUR:
-How many weeks were you when you went into labour?
40+3
-Natural or Induced?
Natural
-How did you know when you were going into labour?
I suspected it after throwing up and the back pain I had for 2 weeks intensified.
-Were you calm or did you panic?
Very calm
-Did you go to hospital straight away?
The back pain was slowly getting worse over time, so no. Not until my mom was there and saw me throwing up.
-What drugs did you have?
None
-Who was your birthing partner(s)?
My fiancee was awesome! My mom was more worried about taking pictures, and my mother in law, was shouting her support from her corner in the back of the room…(she really wasn’t allowed in there)
-Did you dilate quickly?
Yes, went from 6cm-10 in 40 minutes
-How long were you in labour for?
4 hours. NO i didn’t mistype.
-How long were you pushing/In surgery if you had a C-SEC?
I pushed for less than 25 minutes. 8 sets of 3-4 pushes.
-Separate from the pain, did you enjoy labour?
Best thing I’ve ever done!
BABY:
-What time was baby born?
6:46pm according to the doctor, 6:49 according to my husband…My husband I beleive is correct.
-Boy or Girl?
Girl
-Name? (If you want to.)
Anita Desseray Rose
-Weight?
7 pounds 4 ounces
-Length?
18.3 Inches.
YOU:
-How long did it take for you to recover?
Around 3 days for pain to stop, about 2 weeks for bleeding to stop.
-How did you feel after labour?
Happy, wide awake, in love with my baby…scared sh*tless. 19 and suddenly this tiny thing in my arms is my responsibility?
-Do you enjoy being a mummy?
LOVE IT.
NOW:
-How old is baby now?
5weeks.
-Milestones?
She has given me real smiles. Oh and she only cries once during the night!
Breast or Bottle?
-Both, because my baby is awesome like that
-Best thing about being a mummy, for you?
Watching her grow everyday and learn new things! Its so fun to watch him develop and be rewarded with cuddles and smiles <3
Chris asks…
Pregnancy or stress related ?
Hello ,
For the past 2 months i have been feeling really weird , but before all i just want you to know that i have an anxiety disorder that is beginning to fade out with natural pills called GABA .
But i have been having unprotected sex with my bf since i was 15 years old ( im 22 years old now ) because i always stayed with the same partner and never got pregnant !
But for the first time i feel breast pains now an then , nausea’s almost everyday ( no vomiting ) , headaches with dizzyness that come and go almost everyday , 2 times i felt something was pressing against my bladder , i am 24 days late but that is not uncommon to me i have always been extremely irregular in my cycles going from 1 month to 3 months late .
I passed 6 pregnancy tests in the past 2 months the latest was last week … the 2 first ones where very blurry not sure to say if i saw positive lines or not , im guessing the tests where sh*t , then i bough 2 first response tests and they showed negative , and the 2 last ones as well .
I dont know if this can be stress related or pregnancy but i would like to know
Michelle answers:
It could be stress related, but it would be best to get a pregnancy test done at the doctors office to be sure you are or are not pregnant.
GABA is a good product, more ideas for you if you like at the link below.
Take care of your self!
NMP
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