partner’s mother is being unfair about my pregnancy?

i am 21 and my boyfriend turns 18 in two weeks. it felt so natural for us to have a baby together. we have enough money and enough support. the only big problem is his mother. she’s pushing me over the edge. i have a diagnosis of aspergers syndrome and i feel like she discriminates me in a very sneaky way. i am at a college with my partner called ruskin mill and it supports people with special needs. i live independently and i have my own flat with minimal support. i pay for everything except rent which is housing benefit and i hardly ever see support workers. i have anxiety problems, but since i’ve been pregnant i feel focused on being a mum and i’m pretty happy with the idea but my partners mother is really hurting me. she said that ruskin mill is full of retards and she also said that it would be better for everyone if i had an abortion. i mentioned to her that she had a baby at my age but she then said that she didn’t have people looking after her. i said that it would be murder to kill my baby, she called it just a group of cells. i said something like ‘did you feel like that when you were pregnant?’ and she put the phone down on me. she says horrible things about me behind my back and when she’s on the phone to my partner she says nasty things about me and when i grab the phone to tell her to stop she claims that i am butting into the conversation. she says things to my boyfriend like ‘she can still miscarry’ like she wants it to happen. when i go round my partner’s mum’s house she never speaks to me and just gives me sour looks then she says to my partner that i am rude for not talking to her. she says things to him like ‘you look ill, have you been eating?’ and then looks at me as though i am making him miserable. me and my partner had an upsetting argument this morning about her. i said that i didn’t trust her enough to let her see the baby. i said the rest of his family are perfectly okay, but his mother told me bluntly that she didn’t care for or respect me. i said that she would have to take that back and apologies first. i’m worried about how her feelings towards me could effect the child if she sees the baby with the attitude she has now. not to mention how low she makes me feel. i called her a sour old prune and said that i wished that she would go into an old folks home, i also called her a bully. i said a few things i shouldn’t have. my partner yelled at me and said that he’d make me have an abortion and i slapped him around the face. 2 friends of ours were there and they told him he was being mean. he kept hugging me and apologizing to me and he said that the slap ‘turned him on’. i told him that right then i felt alone and like it’s just me and the baby. he said that wasn’t true. later on that day we forgot about it and had a nice time, but i’m still hurt. i’m pregnant and i’m very emotional right now and i just want my partner to look after me. he does in every other way and sorry if this sounds wrong but i hate it how he keeps on defending his mother. he doesn’t even have a good relationship with her and she’s treating everyone like shit. she’s getting away with murder.
i would’t call him a mummys boy. he left home cos of her and to be with me and he does tell her mildly to stop being mean, but he doesn’t treat it like a big deal.
he used to be a bit more firm with her before, but she started getting moody because of it and made family life hell.

mommy survey?

okay just a little survey for mommys. thought it would be fun!!

PREGNANCY:
age: 19

due date: jan 31,2007

morning sickness: yes ..more like all day sickness

how did you find out: took a HPT and got a positive

were you happy about it: yes we were very excited.

LABOR:
induced ,c -section or natural: induced at 41 weeks

how long was labor: 30+hrs

BABY:
boy or girl: boy

name: Kaden Michael

weight/hight: 8lbs 11oz 21 inches

how old is the child now: 17 mos

favorite thing about being a mommy: showing my son about the world and watching his eyes light up when he discovers something new.

Getting prenant while already having missed your period, for MONTHS!?

I have always gotten my period on a normal 28 day cycle.
I gave birth to my daughter, at the age of 20…normal pregnancy, full-term, no complications, natural birth, no drugs!!
When she was 7 months old I missed my period. I didnt get it from Oct.- June of the following yr. In Nov. I took a blood test, and a pregnancy test, and told I was preganant. The next time I went back, I was told I wasnt. I still wasnt getting my period though. Then, on Fathers Day(June) I awoke in the middle of the night with horrible cramps, I felt like I was going into labor. I felt like I had to urinate, so I went to the bathroom, and my urine came out like blood, and would’nt stop. It turns out I was having a miscarriage, and was told I was 12wks. along. I told the Dr. I had no idea, beacause I havent had my menstruation cycle since Oct. (6months before) How could I have been pregnant? Dont you need to have your period, in order to ovulate?

teens: regarding TD vs. TU on all the virginity questions?

So these questions on virginity (and pregnancy) get asked all… the… time… in adolescents section, I figured we can hash it out once and for all on your opinions on why younger ages for doing it the first time are flamed out but the virgins and the older ages get ‘approval’ as it were.

Here’s my reasons for why the younger ages make me a bit squeamish:

– Think back 5 years ago and what you loved madly and were obsessed about when you were 8 or 9 or 10, now imagine being 19 or 20 and thinking back on the relationships you had when you were 14 and 15. You’ll probably think you were an idiot or the people you were dating were idiots. Granted, there seem to be plenty of people in longterm loving relationships that began in your early teens but let’s be real, you guys are the minority.

– Physical Health. One of the main reasons it makes me iffy on the younger ages having sex is health. If you’re a girl, the younger you are when you start to have sex, the more prone you are to getting cervical cancer. A family friend of ours was trying to start a family in her early 40s and going through IVF. They discovered she had cervical cancer and she needed her entire system removed, no possibility of having natural children. She has always been my go-to for sex questions I don’t feel comfortable asking my mom and she told me she lost her virginity when she was 14. Whether or not that is a connection, she and her doctors don’t know, but there it is. And she’s always suggested I be more pragmatic than she was and wait until I was older.
I took it to heart.

– Decisions. Let’s face it, you make better decisions at 14 than you did when you were 8, so I assume the same goes for when you are in your twenties. Personally, I don’t want to have regrets so I’m waiting. Yes, I know we are all humans and we all make mistakes but part of being human is free will. I choose to use my free will to protect myself because I know I get really emotional in relationships and I want to build trust and love before diving off the deep end.

Those are some of my reasons and my question is: Why ALL the judging and how does it relate to you in how you rate answers?

Those who aren’t virgins get all defensive and those who are virgins get all defensive. State your reasons why and let’s get this out in the open once and for all….
jeez, sorry for asking people to read, how pretentious of me. I added all that crap b/c I wanted to start a dialog.

my bad, apparently.