Michelle answers:

Being pregnant is not easy, specially if your closed onesare not getting along, one thing is that the baby you are carrying got them to be there for you also. I remember feeling like that and not caring but i also understand now that is part of the pregnancy, hormones , emotions, being tired, but everything will go away after. I think that if your frustration goes more deeper you should talk to a professional and always think that is normal and you already have the first step of identifying it, i cryed a lot specially there were things i wanted to do and i got stuck into my feelings and i stoped talking to others, but then i realized i needed them,(they will blame everything on the pregnancy, and believed or not it has a lot to do, specially on the last days) talked to them or write on a piece of paper and then make an airplane with it and come out to them and let them know how u feel, specially if its the first child. Make this moments the best of it, because your child needs a family and right now your baby feels every emotion of yours. I remember when i had my son , i did not wanted people around me, specially my husband, and after i gave birth i move to another bedroom with the baby. Finally my emotions got together and i was grateful that he waited for that and also understood BETTER than me. I have three kids now , my mom loves my husb ,and his mom looks for me(UNBELIEVABLE) hang in there, cry, laugh, yell, but remember everything will be ok soon if you find in your inner self what piece of your life is not in place. No one born knowing , we learn while we go through life. Its normal to be tired…..good luck!!!

Michelle answers:

Ok, as with many other things in the scientific community, there are compelling arguments for both sides of this debate. You happened upon one of the “con” positions for induction. I have been fully induced with two of my children, and was supplemented with a third.

With my first, I had no epidural, only IV meds. They had to use a vacuum because I was so out of it. I was induced early due to severe preeclampsia. She was fine. No jaundice, NICU, or anything.

My second, I was supplemented. I was already halfway dilated with I got to the hospital, but my doctor being a selfish jerk, wanted to speed things up. I had already decided on an epidural, which I got pretty much on arrival. No vacuum or forceps, pushed less than an hour. My son was great, perfectly healthy.

My third was induced due to her estimated size. At 36 weeks, she was already estimated at 7 pounds. She was a healthy 8 lbs 3 oz. Pushed 3 times and she was out. No distocia or anything like that. Did have an epidural, though.

The thing with induction is that there is usually a risk involved in the first place. Most doctors are happy to let women go into labor on their own. So, for you to be induced, your doc must have a reason. Maybe he’s trying to avoid a distocia or a c-section. Maybe he’s afraid of your blood pressure or sugar output. The reason that there seem to be more complications associated with inductions is that induction patients tend to have risk factors to begin with. My inductions went fine, my kids are fine, and I’m sure you and your baby will be fine as well. Of course, if you are still concerned, you can explain your position to your doctor. He may be able to calm your fears. Or you can opt to disregard his decision and flat out refuse the induction. The choice is yours. Personally, I’ve never continued with a doctor that I didn’t trust.

Michelle answers:

My advice would be to let nature take its course. An induction increases the likelihood of a C-section. It also causes severe contractions (think about taking a ball bat lined with nails to your stomach, then double it) and it can impede labor. Normally it doesn’t but it can happen. It also increases the chance that you will have to have pain medication.
Now, I’m going to tell you why I am so against this, and you may or may not listen. But I’m going to warn you anyway.
I was induced with my son. I was at 39 weeks. Everything went fine until I started to push (I didn’t even take any pain medications or try to murder my husband). I started to push and then everything went black. I went into massive seizures because the contractions were so intense. They caused my blood pressure to hit the roof (no kidding, 184/124, it almost caused me to have a stroke). I didn’t wake up until 3 hours later. They almost had to put me in ICU.
You will be much better off to let your child come out when it decides to. If I had, then I wouldn’t have had those problems most likely and my son wouldn’t have been literally ripped from me.
Please think on this before you decide.

Michelle answers:

With all 3 of my children I went into spontaneous labor. My water broke with 2 and the other was just contractions. I’m thankful I wasn’t induced because my labors were quick and natural. Don’t get induced unless it’s truly necessary. The labor won’t go as smoothly. Some doctors are more willing to induce . . .most don’t unless you’re past your due date. Hang in there and trust the baby will come when s/he’s ready!