Jenny asks…
No heartbeat at scan, what happens now?
I started bleeding early on in pregnancy after I pulled a stomach muscle at work & a scan revealed I was 8 weeks 4 days, I saw the heartbeat but there was bruising to the womb. I bled for another week and had my proper first scan this morning. The screen was facing me the whole time, I could see the face, nose,body,arms & legs and he/she was lying on his/her back with limbs curled in against the body. No movement and I couldn’t see the heartbeat this time because there wasn’t one,it must have stopped very recently as it was 11 wks 5 days which is what I worked out I should be today. I know its unlikley but could they miss the heartbeat?
I have another scan friday and will discuss my options for surgical removal or natural which i’ll be booked in for next monday – what do both these involve? and is there a chance that I’ll lose the baby naturally over the weekend ?
I feel so lost, I asked questions but they rushed me out saying i’ll be too stressed to take on too much info.
Michelle answers:
Maria i am so sorry for your loss. I have had 4 previous miscarriages including twins at 16 weeks. It is awful and the problem is that professionals see this quite often so they are not as sympathetic and caring as they should be. They see us more as numbers and forget we are real people who are experiencing this!
I doubt that they could of missed the heartbeat to be honest with you. (i know that is the last thing you want to hear). I have never had a baby removed surgically as i have always wanted to pass mine naturally but i have had it explained to me. They put you asleep, gently open your cervix and literally ‘scrape’ the baby out.
Otherwise, if you choose you miscarriage naturally then do be prepared for a lot of pain. You can take strong painkillers for this i .e. Codiene. Sometimes the baby will come out whole or sometimes the body will break everything down so you will have a long bleed with lots of clots.
Once again i am so sorry for your loss.
Xx
Joseph asks…
Do you think this is safe enough?
My boyfriend and I have been together for three and a half years and we were each-others first partners so STD’s are not an issue. I have been on hormonal birth control for years and do not like the way it makes me feel so I have stopped taking it. We do not want a baby so we are planning on using natural family planning charting my temperature with a basal thermometer and cervical mucus. Does this method really work as well as all the books say it does for preventing pregnancy? Thanks for your help. Let me know if you use this method or know anything else about it.
I never said anything about the pull out method.
Nathaniel, you obviously did not read my question at all.
Michelle answers:
I do not recommend this as birth control. I chart my BBT and i usually ovulate on day 15, but for some reason last month i ovulated on day 11 instead. Had i of been using this as birth control, i would of failed. Even when you know your body really well, it can throw a curve ball at you, and you’ll ovulate at a time you never expected. Charting your BBT only tells you when you have already ovulated, and will never tell you the exact day you will ovulate. It helps you get in tune with you body and pinpoint ovulation…it’s not reliable birth control!
Lizzie asks…
Pregnant in the Middle East (bahrain)?
Hi
How do pregnant expats in the middle east feel comfortable having kids ( in bahrain) when I have looked everywhere for local resources and educational classes online for pregnant esp young mothers and nothing exists. I also tried to go to a lot of bookstores but find the same 4 uninterested english books over and over. Is there a lack of interest in the public for educating pregnant women here? and having positive childbirth/ children? Does anyone else feel this way? I am only interested in natural birth and drug free pain management during pregnancy such as prenatal massages etc. Where can I find this offered?
You’re right about the internet. The problem is that I have very limited information and I found that a lot of stuff on the internet was garbage- like drink sodas during pregnancy etc it helps in digestion!! I have no idea which sites are sound.
If anyone can offer me even VALID medical pregnancy support groups online or site listings that would be GREAT!!
Gigi..OMG thanks for your reply!!
This is exactly what I wanted.. a midwife!! I thought these didn’t exist here LOL
I read about Hypnobirthing somewhere but I am not exactly sure i think..it is a technique used to ease pain before labour in natural births I believe
Please change your YA page settings so I am allowed to email you!
Michelle answers:
Hi,
I read your question with interest as I am a retired British trained midwife with over 20 years experience,half of it in the Middle East. You will be pleased to learn that I am one of a few ‘hypnobirthing’ pracitioners in Bahrain that can provide you with birthing and parenting training. I believe there are massage therapists here that provide services for pregnant women. I hope you will find this info useful. Please let me know if I can be of further assistance by sending me your contact details.
Lisa asks…
40 weeks 3 days few questions :)?
hi girls
i am 40 weeks 3 days pregnant and waiting and waiting for a sign 🙁 really want to see my little boy now and hes just not showing any signs ?? he moves legs and arms plenty hes fully engaged and my belly is sitting very low ? im just not getting any signs hes coming lol not really any pains no back aches,just uncomfy when im sleeping !! the only thing i do get is alot of tightening s on my belly ? i am booked in monday to see midwife if hes still not hear and shes booking me in to be induced if hes still not hear 🙁 but i really really want a natural birth has anyone else had this sort of pregnancy? and is it common to be late in pregnancy with your first baby ?? any tips or stories would be a great help 🙂 thank u for reading xx
very very excited mummy 2 be xxxx
also being over 40 weeks slow down movements ? im always feeling him move but the movements are not as big as they used to be xx
yes i have tried raspberry leaf tea,sex,long walks,etc most things hes just to comfy in there lol
Michelle answers:
Yes it is extremely common to be late with the first. Most people i know went over their due date. Don’t worry too much about the induction there is still plenty of time yet for him to make an appearence. My son was 15 days late. On day 14 i was induced 3 times, they all failed and on day 15 they finally got a doctor to see me who told me my baby’s head was trapped and was holding the cervix in the wrong position. It was unlikely that i would go into labour naturally. I had a C-section and he was still pulled out with forceps!! Like you i tried everything to get him out but non of it worked. He will be here when he is ready and if you do have to be induced it will still be a wonderful experience, you can’t beat the feeling of seeing your baby for the first time, however they made it to the world!
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