Charles asks…
what is the oldest age of woman that you know that has gotten pregnant naturally (without ivf, fertility drugs?
back in 1976 my mom was 37 and got preg with my younger brother and back then that was consider “old”, my friend’s mom got pregnant with him in 1962 when she was 40!! these were all natural……
do you know anyone say over 40-45 that got pregnant on their own?? thanks
Michelle answers:
I’ve known women 45, 46, 47 who got pregnant naturally. I got pregnant this year at 43, naturally. I miscarried, but I’m still trying.
Daniel asks…
Any folks ever been a grandma with a newborn?
I just gave birth in June to a new baby after 33 years! I am a 57 year old country gal, and was married in ’02 to a wonderful man. We wanted just one child together for some time, but gave the idea up as we have been getting older. Then the last 3 years we talked and decided to try and it came! I honestly was not expecting to conceive easily at my age (which I didn’t), and also never thought I’d have a baby in 2010! (I found out when I was already about 12-13weeks!)
My daughter is still completely shocked about her old momma, and we are definitely the talk of town (we live in a tiny town so most folks know each other pretty well. I was the long dark-gray haired pregnant woman). My baby will be an aunt to a 14 year old! Yow! Awkward at first, but she seems to be now getting used to the idea of being an “old niece”.lol My daughter had her daughter young (19 years old), and they both live with us. My husband has two children in their 20’s; no grandkiddies yet..
My belly got real huge and heavy for this pregnancy! And I had heartburn and a lot of backpain and bed rest. In the days up to delivery I had real bad back pain and could barely walk and I had to keep callin for my daughter or husband to bring me things. But my daughter, granddaughter and husband gave me o’ lot o’ back massages. Lol I had a very very natural birth in my home, which lasted about a day… My dear daughter was in the room with me the entire labor and birth (along with my husband), to hold my hands and my old legs back, coach me with breathing, feed me water and ice pieces, and listen to me and my literally old-grandma-voice all day doing low groans, loud grunts and strained pushin. It’s been easier for me to be in labor/birth by bein vocal. And my husband delivered. (Bless them).
It has always been just my daughter and me, and I was with her when she gave birth, and now she was with me. And I will be there again for her with any other births she might have. I would like to have another before I’m 60, but we’ll see. 😉 Maybe by IVF. It’s funny because in my town there aren’t really that many women my age giving birth. But in the town next over, there are a couple families like ours and I’d been chatting up with a couple of the older women in my situation (one of them at 52 had a c-section and the other at 55 did it natural at like me).
So I’m just wonderin if there are more folks out there. Or people with aunts/uncles younger than them. Thanks a lot!
Michelle answers:
You are not alone! I have an Aunt who is younger than me and a friend of ours’ sister had her first at 52 (accident) Another friend (42) is thinking about having another and the first child is 27 and getting married so…
Some might say , “what about if you die and leave your kid parentless?” there are many parentless children in the world and no-one knows how long we have. Some live to their 90s and some don’t make 60. Older mothers were common 50 years ago and I think its better for your health.
Bless you!
Maria asks…
Teens: What are your opinions on these controversial issues?
Okay I have a list of controversial issues and I’d love your opinion on them. This isn’t for school or anything just wondering your opinions.
1. Sex before marriage. What do you think of that and wearing purity rings too?
2. The invasion of Iraq/Afghanistan
3. Euthanasia
4. Abortion
5. Gay marriage
6. Should there be an age limit for having children not necessarily through natural conception ie having sex but through IVF?
My answers:
1. I think sex before marriage is okay. Marriage is just a ceremony and a certificate. If you love someone, have been with them a decent amount of time and respect each other and feel comfortable with one another it’s okay.
2. When it first happened I was too young to understand but now I don’t support it. When it was to get rid of Hussein I did but now that he’s gone all the troops need to get out, we’re causing damage (and by we I mean Aussie troops, American troops and any other country that is there). It’s sad but sometimes you’ve got to let it be, I’ve even heard on news stories Iraqi and Afghan civilians saying they want the troops to leave, they want to be left alone.
3. Euthanasia. I agree with but only in extreme circumstances. If they’re in a huge amount of pain and are going to die soon and there’s nothing you can do about either problem but assisted suicide shouldn’t be allowed. The person who assists has to live with it for the rest of their lives. But any other form in extreme circumstances should be okay. But the person who wants to die should prove they are in sound of mind to make that kind of decision, should have counseling before signing anything and be able to change their mind at any time/a time between signing and it happening.
4. Woman’s body, woman’s choice. But if there’s abortion then I think there should be counseling and a “cooling off” period people shouldn’t be able to walk in on a whim and just get an abortion because you may regret it after if you didn’t think it through properly. But I’m pro-choice either way.
5. I think gay marriage is okay. If two people whether they are of the same or opposite genders if they love each other that’s all that matters. By getting married or being together period they haven’t and have never hurt me or affected me at all. So why should I be upset by it?
6. Yes there should be. I was watching The View and they said something about a 70 year old Indian woman who went through IVF, she’s had the kid but now she’s going to die because she can’t recover from the treatment. So now that baby has to grow up without a mother and the chances of the kid ending up on the street is high because of all the poverty in India. It’s selfish on the mother’s part on any mother’s part getting IVF at 70 when chances are you won’t be able to care for the child through death or illness. Is that fair on the kid?
CR: I’m Australian too and heard about those deaths and all I can think is ‘what for?’
Michelle answers:
1. Sex before marriage. What do you think of that and wearing purity rings too?
~ I believe everyone should have respect for their body and mind, and wait until they are genuinely prepared for the potential physical, psychological, and social consequences of sex, and that each of us reaches that point of readiness at our own pace. Sex is the healthiest in all regards when it’s an act of love shared between two people, but I don’t believe a marriage certificate is a necessity. For one, considering that in the vast majority of states and in many countries around the world marriage is a right only given to heterosexuals, it feels like rubbing more salt into the wound discrimination to proclaim that sex, one of the most primal human functions, should only be practiced after a couple has legally wed. Yes, I realize that many of the people opposed to premarital sex are also against homosexual relations, but it frustrates me that so many stand upon the Bible like a soapbox instead of thoroughly reading it as supposed justification. I mean, it’s ironic to me that in America several of the states with the highest divorce rates and the most vocal opposition to gay marriage are in the “Bible Belt”, and Christ never spoke a single word about gays or “fornication” but was very outspoken in his condemnation for divorce. Secondly, marriage isn’t always the most sound option financially, and in this miserable economy there are even more compelling reasons some couples should not marry. Marriage is an exchange of debts and assets as well as vows. If one person has racked up tens of thousands of dollars in debt from living off credit cards after losing a job, then that debt will also be shouldered by his or her spouse. Even if one person decides to buy a house in her name alone, if she’s married and her husband ever foreclosed or has a spotty credit history, she’ll be less likely to get approved for a loan. Thirdly, where I live it’s far more common for people to get married in their early 30s or beyond than in their early 20s, and I don’t think it’s realistic to expect them to hold off until their wedding day to have sex. We all know that sex can lead to unwanted pregnancies and STDs, but many don’t realize that sex can also be extremely beneficial. It releases powerful neurological chemicals that can help to prevent or ease the symptoms of depression and boost happiness and self-esteem, it regulates a woman’s cycle, and has been linked to longevity.
Purity rings are a cheap marketing gimmick masquerading as a display of virtue. Jesus lived simply without false adornment, and believed that your actions were far more important than what you wore or said. A purity ring is not the same as a wedding band, which is a widely accepted symbol of marital status. In my opinion, it’s far more noble to donate the money you would have spent on tacky jewelry to a charitable organization.
2. The invasion of Iraq/Afghanistan
Both countries required an act of intervention, but not a long-term invasion without a solid plan of action and a clear exit strategy. If instead of using fear-inducing propaganda and lies about weapons of mass destruction to strum up support for the wars an honest explanation backed with substantial evidence and sound reasons was given for why it was necessary that other countries step in, I think the outcome and overall attitude towards the wars would have been completely different. I was just a kid at the time of invasion, but I remember the day it began vividly because my family and I were flying through the busy Atlanta airport on our way back home from a spring break trip, and someone came on the loudspeaker to announce that the deadline for handing over the weapons of mass destruction had passed, and we were now at war. Our flight was delayed, and for hours I watched the news that was broadcast on all stations throughout the airport. What stood out the most were the multiple interviews from Iraqis who now lived in America and were scared of what was to come, but felt like it was necessary for Saddam Hussein to be taken out of power, even if it came at a cost. Saddam was brought to justice years ago, though, and far more harm has been done than any good. The same is in many ways true with Afghanistan. The Taliban was our generation’s Nazis, and action was required, but the action that was taken was not the one that was actually needed.
3. Euthanasia
~ I’m in support of euthanasia when a team of trained, reputable medical professionals have thoroughly examined a person, and all have reached the conclusion that there is no chance of recovery from a terminal, painful illness. Living is not the same as existing. We shouldn’t force a person to continue to exist in perpetual agony when there is no hope he or she will ever genuinely live again.
4. Abortion
~ It’s not a choice I would make for myself, but I’m not going to deprive another woman of the right to make the choice best for her. I recently read an article about a ten-year-old girl in Mexico who is pregnant as the result of being brutally raped by her stepfather, and in her religious city abortion is illegal, so she has had to suffer the extraordinary physical and emotional pain of carrying a baby to term that she does not have the ability to provide for, and I think it’s a disgrace. Also, many women opt to abort after discovering that their child has a severe health problem out of compassion and a desire to spare someone they already have formed a love for pain.
5. Gay marriage
~ To me marriage has become like the 21st century version of segregated rights. I’m 100% in support of gay marriage. Why should someone else be denied a right I’m given simply because I happen to be straight and he or she is gay? For decades it was illegal for interracial couples to marry, and many fought tooth and nail to keep it that way. Just because a segment of the population is opposed to something because of their religious or moral beliefs or personal views doesn’t mean that they should make it illegal for others without any legitimate legal reasons. Laws should be based on justice for all rather than on the preferences of some.
6. Should there be an age limit for having children not necessarily through natural conception ie having sex but through IVF?
~ There should be an ethical committee reviewing individual cases before radical medical procedures are given to create a life. I don’t think there should be a set age limit because each circumstance can be different. It’s irresponsible and immoral to use extraordinary measures to enable an elderly woman to get pregnant, or someone who is not emotionally stable, like Nadia Shulman, the “octomom.”
Thanks for your thought-provoking question!!!
~ Peace : )
Betty asks…
When should you be pregnant?
i’ve noticed how more and more women are putting off pregnancy and i personally believe that you shouldn’t wait as the female body is not really meant to be breeding at 30yrs+, but even though children were never really on my plan on things to do in life, I don’t want to end up being one of those women who try to get pregnant via science and it doesn’t work. (I believe in natural conception but that doesn’t mean i would try and sway someone from going down this route as i have actively persuaded older members of my family to try methods such as IVF)
Should I have my children soonish then? (i’m 20 by the way)
Michelle answers:
25 and finished with school. Thwy shouldnt have then in like their 40’s
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