Desire to have a baby but unsure about ‘children’?

I know that question sounds like an oxy moron but what I mean is that I have always had a desire to have a baby but I have always been very nervous around older children. I am 25 years old and have been married for 3 years now and I like the idea of having a baby with my husband. It just feels like the natural thing to do to have my husband’s baby. I want to pass on our values to a child and experience pregnancy, but I feel like most of my interest lies in having and taking care of a baby and not so much around raising a child for years if that makes any sense. I imagine that this is somewhat normal for people to feel and that most people will not be uncomfortable around their own children. I’ve never been one of those people that just ‘loves’ children and swoons over them. I don’t have much experience with them and never know what to say or do. It’s not that I dont like them, I just generally suck at dealing with them and am nervous. Will this go away once we have our own kid? I feel a very strong urge to have a baby with my husband but am scared to death that I will suck at dealing with my child once they start talking and walking around.
Any thoughts?

I am a Roman Catholic- but let myself down sexually, what should I do?

Well let me explain the situation. I am a seventeen year old male. I live in the UK- I don’t know what it is like in other countries, but here the media is full of sex, and all my peers are sexually liberal.
I am in a trick situation. I am a Catholic, with Roman Catholic values. I go to church once a week, on sunday, and sometimes midweek. I understand and to an exent agree with Catholic values, to live by a moral code that is natural law, (I know all about St. Thomas Aquinas’ work on Natural law. I know why we believe that sex is wrong unless done within marriage, love, and intention of procreation.
However, I simply cannot live up to this. I have an insanely high libido. I masturbate at least once a day. I am not a virgin, I reguarly have sex with my partner. We have been going out for nearly a year. I genuinly love her. We intend on getting married, and consider each other soulmates. We use contraception to avoid pregnancy.
This is almost a paradox in my eyes. What can I do. I love God, and am in every other area a devout Catholic (I do charity work, work hard at school, pray reguarly, among other things) but I let my self down sexually. What should I do? please comment, and I am open to all suggestions. Thankyou for your time and knowledge.
To those who say there is nothing wrong with masturbation- that is wrong. It goes against one of the fundamental precepts of what it is to be human- that is, to procreate.

I need advice on my marriage!?

I am 19 and have a six month old son and I am pregnant with twins. My husband is very old fashioned and expects me to cook clean and take care of him, the kids, and the house. I am fine with this but I’m already tired and he wants me to follow the same schedule that I did when I wasn’t pregnant and when I was pregnant with just one baby.
which is:

1. Do all nighttime baby care
2. Wake him up at 6:30
3. Have a full breakfast and the newspaper ready by 7
4. Clean the whole house top to bottom every day
5. Have the children fed and clean and in the play pen by 5:30
6. Have dinner hot and ready by the time he walks in the door at 5:30
7. Clean up dinner by 7
8. Put the babies to bed by 8
9. turn down the bed by nine
10. be showered and in sexy lingerie by 10
11. Make passionate and wild love to him
12. Start it all over again.

He has told me that I will follow this same schedule through the pregnancy and the birth of the babies. Also he has told me that I have to buy bigger maternity lingerie because he won’t stand for it if I don’t make love to him every night. I told him I might be to tired and he went into a rage saying that I am his wife and I will do as he says and that if I am to tired I can pack my bags and go live with my mother for the next nine months and he’ll find someone else to make love to him until I get my act together. I am worried that if I don’t do as he says he’ll kick me out or worse cheat on me. He says we will make love until my due date and that i will make love to him the second I get home from the hospital. Also I will be having an all natural vaginal birth. My husband is thirty and I am 19. If anyone could give me advice on anything in here it would be much appreciated! Thanks in advance.

What is the best creams or natural products to fade old and prevent new, stretch marks? Second pregnancy!?

When I was pregnant with my son 8 years ago I had no complications with anything…no pregnancy sickness at all…nothing.

This time around, I am only 7 weeks and its absolutely horrible! But back to the point, I want my body to look better actually, after this second pregnancy. Im going to eat extremely healthy, continue working out etc. But of ALL the creams and tricks in the book for stretch marks, what is my best bet? I want these old ones to fade while im working on preventing any new ones!

FYI I know they wont disappear of course but I want them to look a lot better!!!!

Should i go ahead and take the test?

I had a miscarriage on October 2nd. I was almost 5 weeks pregnant, i bled for 6 days. I had a natural miscarriage no D&C. My levels have all went down to normal, my cycles are 30 days long. So today has been a month since the miscarriage and still no period. I know it can take longer than a month to get my period. I bought a double pack of pregnancy test the first time around so I still have one left. I was just wondering if i should take the test and if not how many more days should i wait until i take it?

Sorry, paranoia’s kicking in again! Likelihood of pregnancy?

I stopped taking microgynon for a month, and on day 22 I was in close contact with pre cum. 8 days later, I began to bleed (28 days after last period, but not expected due to my natural irregular cycle without the pill) I took this to be my period so started to take microgynon again, and now 8 days later my bleed is contiuing, with very sore boobs. Just like the symptoms I got when I first began to take microgynon.
Is this definitely my period and not implantayion bleeding?
Also I took pregnancy test three days into bleed) 8 days after sex and it was negative.
Can I stop worrying about being pregnant?

Ok, so I think I had implantation bleeding yesterday. When can I take the test?

My husband and I have been having unprotected sex for 5 years now and still no baby. We were giving it until 2010 gets here to go to the doc…wanted to try it the “natural” way first. I had some very light pink bleeding yesterday that only lasted a few hours. I feel kinda bloated & have had some serious back pains for the last few days. Could this be implantation or just signs my period may be on its way? Is it too early to take a home pregnancy test?
I have PCOS (PolyCystic Ovary Syndrome) I have had less than 5 periods over the last year. I had one back around Thanksgiving and technically am due for one by now, but haven’t started yet. I never know if I’m missing a period or simply not having one…it’s so stressful! We want a baby so badly. I wouldn’t even know where to begin calculating when I ovulated…

i’ve irregular periods.1st day of last mc was 22 may’09.did sex with condom on 22june’09.-ive urine test..?

first day of my last menstrual cycle was 22 may’09..i had sex with my bf on 22 june’09..first we did unprotected but i felt something going inside so we stopped and checked but nothing was on his penis.he has great self control and always knows when he’s going to release.cum never came out..den we had sex with condom.when he felt it coming, he pulled out his penis ans then released in condom.den he tried to put his penis in me 2 times and den stopped.before disposing, we checked condom and it wasn’t broken..since den m not getting my periods..my periods are very very irregular and many times earlier too they’ve been 1 month late after next period date..i took urine pregnancy test 2 weeks after we did sex and got negative..am i really pregnant or its natural delay and i should wait?
first day of my last menstrual cycle was 22 may’09..i had sex with my bf on 22 june’09..first we did unprotected but i felt something going inside so we stopped and checked but nothing was on his penis.he has great self control and always knows when he’s going to release.*** never came out..den we had sex with condom.when he felt it coming, he pulled out his penis ans then released in condom.den he tried to put his penis in me 2 times and den stopped.before disposing, we checked condom and it wasn’t broken..since den m not getting my periods..my periods are very very irregular and many times earlier too they’ve been 1 month late after next period date..i took urine pregnancy test 2 weeks after we did sex and got negative..am i really pregnant or its natural delay and i should wait?logical answers r expected..
please answer my question..its a request..pls help me out..

My friend is pregnant…can you answer this?

So, I have a 23 year old friend who is married and is expecting her first baby. This is piling the pressure on because she’s in uni and really wants to have a baby. So, I want to know what sorta things she’d go through, partly so I can reassure her, partly so I know when I get pregnant when I’m older. Here goes….
1. How do you know when you’re in labour? What do you feel?
2. Births: Water, c section, natural, what do they all mean and which is best?
3. What do contractions and birth feel like?
4. Any pain relief they can give you? We’re both phobic to needles so there would have to be a numbing thing……epidural perhapsish?
5. Any way to make birth easier?
6. What are inducers? How do they work and are they good?

and anything else you can think of about pregnancy and birth etc…

Thanks!

A fun little survey for Mommies :)?

Was your bundle of joy a surprise?
Nope:)

How long did it take for you to realize you were pregnant?:
6 weeks

Where were you when you found out?:
My bathroom lol

Who were you with?:
My boyfriend(her daddy)

Was adoption or abortion an option?:
NOOO

How did you tell the Dad?:
He was there with me lol

Were you married at the time?:
Nope

If not did you get married because you were pregnant?:
No but hopefully one day we will get married 🙂

Where was the baby conceived?:
Lol I don’t know probably my room haha

Reactions
Yours?:
Ohh my goodness!

Dads?:
Oh wow

His Parents?:
“I knew this was gonna happen!” lol

Your parents?:
“WHAT!?” lol

Siblings?:
“What??” lol

Friends?:
AWW

Pregnancy
Did you like being pregnant?:
loved it 🙂

Did you want to wait to find out the sex?:
No I wanted to find out soon as possible

Did you have any complications?:
No

Did you crave anything?:
Everything! haha

Did you sleep alot?:
I was hardly ever awake! lol

Towards the end how were you?:
Moody! haha

Did the dad support you?:
Yes

Did you have any mid night cravings?:
Ohh yes!

Would you do it again?:
When I’m older

Labor and Delivery
What were you doing when you went into labor?:
Playing on the computer lol

Did you get drugs?:
Nope all natural 🙁

Who drove you to the hospital?:
My boyfriend(her daddy)

Vaginal or C-section?:
Vaginal :O

How long?:
7hours

If yo got drugs, how long were you in labor until you got them?:
I didn’t get any

Was it as bad as everyone said?:
Yup!

What did you think the first time you realized it was “almost time” for him/her:
I was in shock!

What did you think the first time you heard him/her cry?:
Oh my gosh that’s my baby!

Your first reaction whe you seen him/her?:
I was in love 🙂 she was/is perfect

Dads first reaction?:
Shes so tiny!

Who was the first person to come and visit you?:
Everyone came!! Lol

How long did you stay?:
3 days

Postpardum:
What was the first day home like?:
Amazing

Did you have any trouble?:
No

How long did it take you to reacover?:
She’s almost 5 weeks and still not all the way recovered

Did anyone come to visit?:
Everyone

Did you let just anyone hold the baby?:
My family and friends

How did Dad do?:
Amazing 🙂 he changed all the dirty diapers haha

What is it like being a mommy?:
The best feeling in the whole wide world!

Is your baby difficult or easy?:
Easy 🙂

How old is your baby now?:
Almost 5 weeks

Colicy?:
Nope

Boy or Girl:
Girl
Lol yes alot of questions! I didn’t wanna just put a few cause that would be boring haha

I need advice on my marriage!?

I am 19 and have a six month old son and I am pregnant with twins. My husband is very old fashioned and expects me to cook clean and take care of him, the kids, and the house. I am fine with this but I’m already tired and he wants me to follow the same schedule that I did when I wasn’t pregnant and when I was pregnant with just one baby.
which is:

1. Do all nighttime baby care
2. Wake him up at 6:30
3. Have a full breakfast and the newspaper ready by 7
4. Clean the whole house top to bottom every day
5. Have the children fed and clean and in the play pen by 5:30
6. Have dinner hot and ready by the time he walks in the door at 5:30
7. Clean up dinner by 7
8. Put the babies to bed by 8
9. turn down the bed by nine
10. be showered and in sexy lingerie by 10
11. Make passionate and wild love to him
12. Start it all over again.

He has told me that I will follow this same schedule through the pregnancy and the birth of the babies. Also he has told me that I have to buy bigger maternity lingerie because he won’t stand for it if I don’t make love to him every night. I told him I might be to tired and he went into a rage saying that I am his wife and I will do as he says and that if I am to tired I can pack my bags and go live with my mother for the next nine months and he’ll find someone else to make love to him until I get my act together. I am worried that if I don’t do as he says he’ll kick me out or worse cheat on me. He says we will make love until my due date and that i will make love to him the second I get home from the hospital. Also I will be having an all natural vaginal birth. My husband is thirty and I am 19. If anyone could give me advice on anything in here it would be much appreciated! Thanks in advance.
I can’t leave him because I love him and really it’s my fault that he gets so mad because I provoke him. As his wife I should do as he says. I just need advice on how to get through the next 6 months.
my baby is 6 months old not 19 months. I’m 19
this is a real post and I don’t know why everyone thinks I’m joking and why everyone thinks he’s abusive. I love him and he loves me! All I wanted was advice on how to keep up the schedule NOT your personal opinons.

Why do liberal Christians promote big-government dependency programs over charity?

Jesus taught, “Freely have you received, freely give.” His own example and the parable of the Good Samaritan show us that charity is short-term help for those who have had an unforeseen setback. He also taught in many parables that we are to act prudently to care for ourselves and our families.
http://www.bcbsr.com/survey/jpbl.html
* The wise man builds on rock, not sand.
* You don’t sew new cloth on an old garment or put new wine in old wineskins.
* You buy a field to recover a treasure or invest in a valuable pearl.
* You patiently grow crops or fish and throw out the bad stuff later.
* You search for a lost animal or a lost coin until you find it.
* You don’t complain when others are paid the same amount for less work.
* You plan ahead to keep your lamp filled with oil.
* You invest your money instead of burying it.
* You don’t expect praise for carrying out your duties.
* You humbly take the lowest seat instead of expecting to be treated like royalty.
* You carefully consider the cost of building a tower.

Given Jesus’ teachings, why do liberal Christians promote dependency programs that provide a semi-permanent salary for school failure, addiction, illegitimate pregnancy, poor work habits, and similar avoidable failings? The money for these programs is not freely given, and the recipients are shielded from the natural consequences of their failings, removing any motivation to change their behavior.

Is this a reasonable interpretation of the gospel: That God expects individual charity and self-help, and that he expects us not to render these responsibilities unto Caesar?
StevenJ, aside from evading the question, are you saying that hypocritical preachers negate the teachings of Jesus?
WitnessofJesus, isn’t it a gospel teaching to be content with your pay (Luke 3:14) and to accept the wages you agreed on (see Matt 20:14-15) rather than claiming to be “oppressed in your wages”? Wage oppression is Marxism, not Christianity, the religion of freedom.
Bluepeahen, if liberal Christians didn’t support big-government dependency programs, these programs would never be enacted. My guess is that they confuse coercive income redistribution with charity.
Johnny, Matt 25 is about a test for going to heaven or hell. The government can’t get us to heaven, but it can make hell on earth. The dependency programs, for example, are inducing young girls to get pregnant in high school, essentially ruining their lives and producing a generation of children raising themselves.

I really need some help about herbs in a “women in balance” supplement, and pregnancy?

I had a baby almost 8 months ago, and ever since then my hormones have been really of out it, and earlier this month i bought some supplements from a place called “Herbal Healer”, called “Women in Balance”… Its all natural, and for all women of all ages.
Well, i started spotting about 13 dpo, and never started my period.Meanwhile, im still taking these supplements..Till last thursday, when i kinda suspected i *might* be pregnant.
Last friday,sunday and monday, i took 4 pregnancy tests and all came out dark positives.
Here is what’s in them..
Soy Isoflavones, Kava Kava, Wild Yam Extract, Licorice4:1 extract, Dong Quai powder, Red Raspberry powder, Black cohosh extract, chasteberry, ginger root powder, red clover and Ginkgo standardized extract.
Does anyone know if any of these would make a positive pregnancy test result? or am i really pregnant? i asked my naturopath dr, and she said they shouldnt, but stop taking them and test again next week… what do yall think? Thanks!

Can I Be Pregnant? When should i test? Please Help Me?

I had a natural miscarriage that started 8/2 ( i was 4 weeks). I stopped bleeding by 8/7. On 8/11 my HCG hormone was back to zero (because i didn’t have any complications my ob/gyn said i can try to conceive as soon as the bleeding stopped). I brought a digital ovulation test because it is very important for me to conceive again. I got a LH surge on 8/21 and on 8/22 when i tested again i did not have a surge. On 8/21 & 8/22 my husband and i had sex. What are my chances that i conceived? And how soon can i take a pregnancy test? If i’m not pregnant when should i expect a period.
p.s we also had sex on every other day since 8/12. PLEASE HELP ME.

My dr. put me on provera, does this prevent pregnancy?

I have not had a natural period since the beginning of march. Thinking that I might be pregnant, I was not worried. In June i went to see my dr. and she put me on provera,(which is a hormone pill used to regulate the menstrual cycle) for 10 days. At the beginning of June i had my period, now it is the middle of August and I have not had my period yet. My boyfriend and I have taken 5 pregnancy test, and they all were negative. I am really nervous because provera is not to be taken if you are pregnant or trying to get pregnant. I have not had any abdominal or back pain or had any pregnancy symptoms. What is the problem?

Is cervical mucus a sign of pregnancy?

My period is due in 3 days, I ovulated on the 10th, and baby dance occured on the 9th-12th. (We are TTC.)

I am extremely regular in my cycles (you can set a clock by my period and ovulation schedules), and I chart my cervical mucus (natural family planning). The only cervical mucus visible in my cycles NORMALLY is at ovulation time.

As far as other signs go, I’ve had DEFINITE lower back pain, mild abdominal cramps (similar to menstruation cramps), a little bit of nausea (could have been wishful thinking though), slight darkening of areolas, and I know it sounds crazy, but I just “feel” pregnant. I’ve read a lot on that, but I took a pregnancy test (Early First Response…the lines indicator) yesterday and one this morning. Both negatives, so I’m afraid some or all of this is wishful thinking. Then a bit ago, I had creamy white cervical mucus followed by clear ovulation-type mucus the next time I went to the bathroom. This has NEVER happened in one of my cycles before (mucus outside of my ovulation time). What gives?

Only serious answers please.

Just for fun: All you pregnant mommas!?!?

Here’s a little survery for fun –

How far along are you? – I’m 37 weeks tommarow.

When are you due? – Sept. 13th

How old are you? – Im 16

Are you having a boy or girl? Or twins? – I’m having a Baby girl!

Have you picked out a name or names? – Yes, Lexi Elaine.

If you don’t know yet are you planning on finding out? – I already found out!

Is this your first? If not how many kids do you have? – This is my first.

Are you having cravings? If so, What? – mmmm Right this moment a popsickle sounds great!

Are you having any symptoms at the moment? – Yep, I’m starting to get really tired lately!

Is your boy/girl kicking at the moment? – She was moving around not to long ago! It’s a lil cramped in there now!

Are you suffering from horrible skin problems or do you have that pregnancy glow? – ACNE!!! Errrrrr!

Are you done with babys room? Or are you just getting started? – Yes, The baby’s room is ALL done and I’ve washed everything except her bedding!

Did you have a baby shower or plan to? If so how was it or how long until you have yours? – I didn’t have one.

Do you plan on a epidural or C section or natural? – Natural.

Do you plan to breastfeed or bottlefeed? – Breastfeed!

Do you have any belly pics or ultrasound pics you want to show off? If so add them as you please!!!!

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Okay! So I hope you had fun!!!! And Congrats to all you mommas out there!!!! It’s kind of long but I thought it was a break from all those AM I PREGNANT questions.

i feel so low can anyone help make me feel better?

i have a situation and i am getting so down about it all i dont know what to do. A few weeks ago my husband came home really drunk and attacked me, i am 30 weeks pregnant by the way, on the night it happened i had him arrested and had the baby checked at the hospital, obviously i have thrown him out because i dont need that around me right now, ever since that incident i have had the social services involved (because my older daughter is disabled etc), but the real problem is now everytime i have a midwife appointment or consultant appointment all they do is talk about the incident and make me fill out forms about it etc, it seems that everyone is loosing sight of the fact that i am pregnant and would like to discuss my pregnancy at my appointments not about that, i am getting really tired now trying to do it alone and take care of my older child (autistic) i have 10 weeks to go and i am not ready for the babys arrival yet, i dont have another midwife appointment for 6 weeks, and i need to discuss labour etc because i have had a previous c section and i am keen to go natural this time, im really sorry for my rant not really sure what i am asking i am just feeing really run down and underpressure from everything i feel like i am just going to go into labour one day and its going to be chaos because i have no plan etc,
sorry i forgot to add that unfortunatly i dont have any parents myself to turn to for support my husbands family were my main support source

this is for all you mommys to be :)?

Here’s a little survery for fun –

How far along are you? – I’m 33 weeks today 🙂

When are you due? – march 8, 2010

How old are you? – Im 16

Are you having a boy or girl? Or twins? – I’m having a Baby boy!

Have you picked out a name or names? – Yes, Zachary James ( calling him James )

If you don’t know yet are you planning on finding out? – I already found out!

Is this your first? If not how many kids do you have? – This is my first.

Are you having cravings? If so, What? – mmmm Right this moment a popsickle sounds great!

Are you having any symptoms at the moment? – Yep, I’m starting to get really tired lately!

Is your boy/girl kicking at the moment? – no he is sleeping right now 🙂

Are you suffering from horrible skin problems or do you have that pregnancy glow? – ACNE!!! Errrrrr!

Are you done with babys room? Or are you just getting started? – No, im going shopping today to buy some stuff 🙂

Did you have a baby shower or plan to? If so how was it or how long until you have yours? – I didn’t have one.

Do you plan on a epidural or C section or natural? – Natural.

Do you plan to breastfeed or bottlefeed? – bottlefeed!

Do you have any belly pics or ultrasound pics you want to show off? If so add them as you please!!!!

Okay! So I hope you had fun!!!! And Congrats to all you mommas out there!!!! It’s kind of long but I thought it was a break from all those “AM I PREGNANT” questions.

Just for fun: All you pregnant mommas!?!?

Here’s a little survery for fun –

How far along are you? – I’m 37 weeks tommarow.

When are you due? – Sept. 13th

How old are you? – Im 16

Are you having a boy or girl? Or twins? – I’m having a Baby girl!

Have you picked out a name or names? – Yes, Lexi Elaine.

If you don’t know yet are you planning on finding out? – I already found out!

Is this your first? If not how many kids do you have? – This is my first.

Are you having cravings? If so, What? – mmmm Right this moment a popsickle sounds great!

Are you having any symptoms at the moment? – Yep, I’m starting to get really tired lately!

Is your boy/girl kicking at the moment? – She was moving around not to long ago! It’s a lil cramped in there now!

Are you suffering from horrible skin problems or do you have that pregnancy glow? – ACNE!!! Errrrrr!

Are you done with babys room? Or are you just getting started? – Yes, The baby’s room is ALL done and I’ve washed everything except her bedding!

Did you have a baby shower or plan to? If so how was it or how long until you have yours? – I didn’t have one.

Do you plan on a epidural or C section or natural? – Natural.

Do you plan to breastfeed or bottlefeed? – Breastfeed!

Do you have any belly pics or ultrasound pics you want to show off? If so add them as you please!!!!

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Okay! So I hope you had fun!!!! And Congrats to all you mommas out there!!!! It’s kind of long but I thought it was a break from all those “AM I PREGNANT” questions.
How rude are you some of you. You dont my situation and I’m pretty well educated so dont say poor kid and poor me!!!! CVS BRAND??? Excuse me But I used a E.P.T. digital and 2 first responses! At least I didnt come on answers and ask if I was pregnant! GET A LIFE BECAUSE OBVIOUSLY YOU DON’T HAVE ONE!!!! Btw, I was using a CONDOM but it broke, And I took RESPONSIBILITY FOR MY ACTIONS!!! I DID NOT KILL MY UNBORN BABY!
Thanks all of you who answered. Some people just really make me mad. I don’t know if it was my hormones or what!
I live in Southern California.

And to anyone thinking I’m going to be on welfare is stereotyping all teenage moms! Just because I’m 16 does not mean I will be on welfare! My boyfriend has a job and I am still in school, Soon to be enrolling in College to become a RN.

Does this sound like pregnancy to you?

Does this sound like pregnancy or am I just imagining things? I’m sorry I know this is one of those oh-so-common am I pregnant questions, but I could really use some help!

I use the natural family planning method, which has worked for me for years. My period have been consistent for about 6 months since getting off of the pill in July 2009. I got off of the pill because every time I take birth control, I get always get most of the bad side effects.
So since October my period have been going on about a 33-34 day cycle. I’ve been able to chart when I ovulate,which is about 12 days after my period. I can feel it as well, so I know. Its been like this:

Periods:
October 31
December 3
January 6
February 9

I always figure it will come within that 3 days gap. They usually are a very heavy flow and last about 5 to 7 days. However, in February, it didn’t come until about halfway through the day on the 9th and flowed for about a day or two and then became so light for a couple days that it only showed when I wiped. The day after this “period” stopped, I went to the doctor for a follow up appointment after being diagnosed with PCOS and took a urine pregnancy test, which was negative.

But this month, it was supposed to come on the 12th and it hasn’t! And I’ve only felt bloating. I usually get PMS symptoms pretty bad about a week before my period, but this month I haven’t experience a thing. But I been experiencing breast pain for about 3.5 to 4 weeks now.

I’ve been experiencing more and more symptoms as the days go by:
-Headaches
-Fatigue (its getting to the point where my partner can’t even wake me up and if he succeeds, I become unusually angry while I’m still half asleep)
-Nausea (slightly and in the morning and evenings. Not everyday. No vomiting)
-TERRIBLE lower back aches (sometimes they don’t stop until it is throbbing)
-Perky Nipples
-Sensitive breasts (a lot of times they will hurt with no movement being made at all)
-lightheaded and have only experience two dizzy spells
-Certain smells do make me queasy and I haven’t been able to eat some foods that I normally do.
-I have that sticky, clear, discharge that has no odor (I know for a fact I’m not ovulating because I charted it, but I did hear this could be an early pregnancy thing)
-Oh and lets not forget, no period.

So let me know what you guys think. Am I crazy or just pregnant?
The reason I haven’t tested yet is because it could be my body just going nuts. So I thought I’d give it a week before jumping to conclusions…
Thanks for the input about PCOS and ovulating. For me, I’ve never had problems with my period. I mean it may have been a little off sometimes, but it didn’t really mess up until I got on the depo a few years ago and then went through a series of different birth control pills. But I menstruate fine and my doctor says I ovulate very consistently, especially for someone with PCOS. This is the only reason i’m questioning my symptoms because my period and ovulation schedule have been completely regular.

pregnancy after miscaraige?

hi all,
i recently had a m/c this month at 7 weeks, passed baby natural, no need for d&c, started bleeding on the 12th, and stopped bleeding about 7 days later and was no longer getting a pos on pregnancy test,, exactly 14 days after 1st day of bleeding i had stretchy CM and opk showing pos so me and hubby baby danced for a few days and just wondered of my chances of getting pregnant again??? we been ttc for years, had 1st m/c in oct 08 and my 2nd this month so we are desperate to catch again.
anyone in or been in same situation and what are your thoughts?

sarah x

Am I having pregnancy symptons or are these symptons from my miscarriage or soemthing totally different?

January 4th my HCG was 1080. On Jan 5, I expelled the tissue of my baby and January 8 my HCG was 80. I was only 3 weeks long. Then on January 14th my HCG level was a 6. So I had a rather fast natural MC. My doctor told me I could try to get pregnant whenever I was emotional able. I didn’t carry the baby long enough to wait. Well I’ve been trying since Jan 10th. I have these symptons: hemrroids, hiccups, gas, heartburn, short-temper, and I cry over the stupidest things. I don’t know if that b/c of the mc or not. I am also very tired. Almost exhausted. I am also having some creamy discharge. Sorry TMI. It almost looks like watery lotion. So my question is: Is it possible to ovulate soo soon after a mc and if so are the symptons just from my last pregnancy, my mc, or something totally different? I took a pregnancy test last Friday and it was neg. I have another but I figured I would wait at least till my period is suppose to start. Which is probably in a week and a 1/2. So???

I REALLY need some help about herbs in a “women in balance” supplement, and pregnancy?

I had a baby almost 8 months ago, and ever since then my hormones have been really of out it, and earlier this month i bought some supplements from a place called “Herbal Healer”, called “Women in Balance”… Its all natural, and for all women of all ages.
Well, i started spotting about 13 dpo, and never started my period.Meanwhile, im still taking these supplements..Till last thursday, when i kinda suspected i *might* be pregnant.
Last friday,sunday and monday, i took 4 pregnancy tests and all came out dark positives.
Here is what’s in them..
Soy Isoflavones, Kava Kava, Wild Yam Extract, Licorice4:1 extract, Dong Quai powder, Red Raspberry powder, Black cohosh extract, chasteberry, ginger root powder, red clover and Ginkgo standardized extract.
Does anyone know if any of these would make a positive pregnancy test result? or am i really pregnant? i asked my naturopath dr, and she said they shouldnt, but stop taking them and test again next week… what do yall think? Thanks!

I need advice on my marriage!?

I am 19 and have a six month old son and I am pregnant with twins. My husband is very old fashioned and expects me to cook clean and take care of him, the kids, and the house. I am fine with this but I’m already tired and he wants me to follow the same schedule that I did when I wasn’t pregnant and when I was pregnant with just one baby.
which is:

1. Do all nighttime baby care
2. Wake him up at 6:30
3. Have a full breakfast and the newspaper ready by 7
4. Clean the whole house top to bottom every day
5. Have the children fed and clean and in the play pen by 5:30
6. Have dinner hot and ready by the time he walks in the door at 5:30
7. Clean up dinner by 7
8. Put the babies to bed by 8
9. turn down the bed by nine
10. be showered and in sexy lingerie by 10
11. Make passionate and wild love to him
12. Start it all over again.

He has told me that I will follow this same schedule through the pregnancy and the birth of the babies. Also he has told me that I have to buy bigger maternity lingerie because he won’t stand for it if I don’t make love to him every night. I told him I might be to tired and he went into a rage saying that I am his wife and I will do as he says and that if I am to tired I can pack my bags and go live with my mother for the next nine months and he’ll find someone else to make love to him until I get my act together. I am worried that if I don’t do as he says he’ll kick me out or worse cheat on me. He says we will make love until my due date and that i will make love to him the second I get home from the hospital. Also I will be having an all natural vaginal birth. My husband is thirty and I am 19. If anyone could give me advice on anything in here it would be much appreciated! Thanks in advance.
this is a real post and I don’t know why everyone thinks I’m joking and why everyone thinks he’s abusive. I love him and he loves me! All I wanted was advice on how to keep up the schedule NOT your personal opinons.

I really want a baby……?

I am 23 yrs old and an LPN going back to school for my RN. I have a little less than two semesters left for my RN. I have been with my hubby for 8 years and we have a 2 year old son. I have a horrible desire for another child even though due to our family situation we can’t have another child and because I had a complicated pregnancy with my son I would have difficulty finishing the RN program. Other than getting a dog/cat, how can I get over my desire to have another child? I see so many people having children and I wish I could expand my family as well. In addition to this question, have any of you tried either clomid or natural substances to boost your fertility? When I finish my RN I plan on getting pregnant ASAP and my husband and I had 2 years that we did not use protection before having our son.
uhm, I am completely able to carry a child. I had a threatened abortion(meaning I bled a lot and they worried about what commonly is called a miscarriage) and I suffered from hyperemesis and diabetes. I am just concerned about my desire to be pregnant and have a child right now when I know it would complicate my situation significantly. Read the question before you leave a bull answer.

I need advice on birth control after having a baby..?

I am 23 years old, married. We have a seven year old boy and I will be having our second boy in about 5 weeks. I have kidney disease but I dont take any medications other than fish oil pills and natural mona vie juice, which helps me keep normal kidney function. I have normal blood pressure and no other health problems when I am not pregnant.

I am trying to decide on a tyoe of birth control to use after the baby is born. I want to eventually try for a girl but not anytime soon. Everyone wants me to get a tubal, But I still want the option to eventually have one more. This pregnancy has been much better than my first but it is still high risk because of my kidneys which is why they suggest tubal.

I am wondering if anyone has a suggestion on a great birth control for my situation. I was thinking mirena IUD, has anyone used this? What did you think? Did you have any complications? What about the 3 month depo shot? I have used the pill before but I really dont care for it.

Bring up milk supply while pregnant?

i am breastfeeding my 6 month old boy, and found out that I am pregnant again. For the first trimester I have to be on progesterone pills. The Dr. told me to wean my baby because the pills were bad for him. I did not want to, so For 3 three days while I was waiting for info from specialists, and not taking the pills yet, I was feeding him a bottle every other feeding, just in case I would have to wean him. I am taking the pills now and breastfeeding him as well, on the advice of the specialists.
I have a head cold, the progesterone pills decrease milk supply on their own, as does pregnancy. Any advice on how I could increase my milk supply again? I would like to feed him until he is 1 year old. I have started feeding him on both sides at every feeding, am drinking up to 15 glasses of water, milk and juice a day. It has been a week since I started to take the pills, and I still need to give him at least two bottles of formular a day.
Anything that is natural that I can do to bring back my milk supply? I will be on the pills for another 1.5 months.
Thank you
I absolutly have to be on these pills, I dont take anything else ever! If I dont take these pills my unborn baby could die. I did speak to many specialists about this before taking them. Unfortunatly, all the specialists are now on holidays, I was not antisipating this problem, and did not think to ask them at the time. I also was on these pills with my boys pregnacy. I have been pregnant 8 times and have 4 children. Keeping the unborn baby alive is more important than breast feeding my baby. But I would like to do both 😉

Negative HCG urine test but possibly pregnant? Please share similar stories! thanks!?

I would like some advice on my menstrual cycle. My cycles are pretty similair in days. (May – 32 days, June – 35 days, July – 30 days, Aug – 37 days). My last period was on Sept. 28th 2009. i have been testing my ovulation for 3 months and never ever got a positive. THEN i got my first positive ovulation test on Oct. 26th. I felt cramping 2 days later on Oct. 28th. I KNOW I OVULATED! The date as of today is November 18th, exactly 3 weeks since i ovulated. I’ve taken literally 5 pregnancy tests starting from a week ago. Today, i took one again and it was negative. BUMMER… But i know i there could possible still be a little bun in the oven. I wanna wait another week, making 1 month since i ovulated, and if the urine test is still negative, i will make a doctor’s appointment for a blood test. I have symptoms including fatigue, slight nausea, and missed period. I have scoliosis so the fatigue could be linked to that. Sometimes i feel like maybe i just feel nauseas because im thinking about being nauseas. haha. No sore breast at all and i usually have sore breasts for a week, then one day off, then my period will start. I have been trying to have a baby for roughly 8 months and no luck. I am 21 years old, husband is 22, been married for 2 years. We are not only excited, we are financially ready to have this baby and cannot wait to have a natural home water birth with this beautiful baby. If anyone has had a similair story and turned out pregnant or their urine test came back negative but they were pregnant, please share. Thanks and god bless!

-Wendy

Ovulation and Pregnancy or just no chance at all?

I stopped breastfeeding almost 2 months ago (baby is 18 1/2 months) and I got my period for the first time. It was very normal for me~ somewhat heavy. Exactly 28 days later, I had very light spotting- but almost nonexistent. (sept 28) So I thought that my body was just getting things back to normal, but then I decided to take a pregnancy test on day 3 of my period and it was Negative. I had a miscarriage on October 22nd and bled for 5-7 days. My midwife says that it was an extremely early miscarriage and that is why the test said negative, but I counted my mc as a period and figured I’d ovulate between Nov 2-7, or there abouts so that is when we really tried…and I am wondering if anyone thinks that I was ovulating and what my chances are of being pregnant?? I am healthy and had a very early natural miscarriage. Any ideas? Thanks

when should i test again?? Positive HPT 2 days ago but am i pregnant?

I know the only way to tell is go see my doctor but im putting that off for a while. i just want to know if anyone else has fallen pregnant after a miscarriage and before the first period? Does this sound like im pregnant again?

I did a first Response pregnancy test, (morning urine) The right line is alot more visible then the left but there is defiantly 2. I miscarried just over 6 weeks ago, i was 8 weeks. My miscarriage was natural and i stopped bleeding within 5 days.
Just over a week later my hormone level dropped from 10000 to 78. I haven’t yet had my period but i expect it should of came by now! Pregnancy symptoms STOPPED 2 weeks after and now they are back. Sore nipples, semi tender breasts crying and feeling a little sick. Its been 4 weeks since we had our first intercourse after the miscarriage and have been having intercourse since then.
I know hormones can stay in your body for up to 6 weeks but because they dropped dramaticly when i was tested i assumed they would be gone already
Am i pregnant again?
should i wait a week to test again or a month or?
Thanks heaps everyone! i know i should go to the doctor im just scared. I kind of dont want it confirmed yet. I wanted to try wait until a few months later so hopefully i would be over my 12 weeks and i wouldnt have to worry about miscarrying again. I miscarried on the 8th and my hormone level was 78 on the 15th if that helps at all

Took the test. Need questions answered.?

We didn’t have penetration. Girlfriend and I were never naked at the same time. However we did finger and she did do oral sex. There doesn’t seem to be a chance she could be pregnant. We even took a pregnancy test today to be sure and it came out negative.

She has missed her period by 4 days now.

The stuff happened Tuesday.

She was supposed to start her period Thursday.

We tested Saturday night.

What is the likelihood that it was a false negative test?

We are 18 and 19, and do not want a kid.
I am a natural worry-wart, and I really want to go to sleep peacefully tonight.
Anything you say can help greatly

Please tell me if i am PCO’s?

I am 28 yrs old and Husband 33 yrs old. my height is 1m54 and weight 74 kgs, having irregular periods. i have a little bit of hair, but zat natural. i was at the doctor, he gave me serophene for three months. for the first and second months i ovulated for 28 days and 29 days. but for the third month it was 49 days.Husband sperm ok, except motility a little bit low. we are married more than 1 year now. we have been ttc since marriage without control, but no pregnancy. before mariage i was 54 kgs and very regular in my periods. so do u think i will become pregnant? i am frustrated. am i a case of PCO?
thank u for the answers.

Staphylococcus aureneus and Candida on my babys bottom!?

Hi!

I have a 9-10 week old whom has had a rash since 2 weeks old. only 10 days ago did they take a swab to shut me up. I had been trying to make them take a sample from stools, urine, swabs on bum, swab in mouth, ect.

They gave me creams that stripped the skin on her bum which they were not happy that i knew the exact details of what the creams are really ment for (micreme is NOT for babies even thou its given to heaps, it made my baby worse). After all that they did a swab that came up saying she had heavy growth of Staphylococcus aureus and moderate growth of Candida (which my mum says i have had and its due to sugar).

In my last month of pregnancy i had green discharge which the docs and midwife said ‘its fine dont worry’ but i did. When baby was born she had a bad eye all pussy it stopped aftwe weeks of natural treatment (once again the creams they gave made it worse).

The docs wont listen to me and im wondering if there was anyone whom had a child that had this and what helped for them.

She had water stools no solids since week 2. It shoots out across the room and no longer has a sweet smell to it. 100% breast fed baby sometimes expressed in bottle.

Many thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ive been deff using the zinc/castor ointments i have 2 types ones a cream that rubs in and one doesnt just sits on top i have been using that one along with her just gotten oral meds which i will be trying out till monday with me watching her very closely.

Ill also be going to get myself checked (even thou i obviously have no matter what the doc says to me) from what we have here called family planning. i have a solution of drops to give her once her antibiotics are done to clear it out of her system. how long did it take for your daughter to overcome it when she was young? if it werent for natural health i wouldnt of been able to of had my baby girl (had a pregnancy go wrong cause i get so sick in 08/09)

panic attacks/heart palpitations?

heres a little about me…around 3 years ago i started suffering with panic attacks alot of councilling and i found the source of the problem, due to the fact i lost my 1st born 7 years before and never greived and my abusive partner, so since then have found a truley wonderful man who have been with now coming up 2 years, the panic attacks stopped, now recently i have had a baby he is 6 months old, whilst i was pregnant i started suffering with heart palpatations, went for all the test ecg- 24 hours monitoring-plus heart scan. came back that my left side of my heart was a little bit dialated, they wasnt worried went through child birth fine no problem it was a natural child birth aswell, had palpatations a few weeks after birth then they stopped, had to go back last week for a check up to see if the dialation was pregnancy realted, since then the palpations are back… could it be the fact of anxiety waiting for results, of the fact ive gone back to work as a night carer so lack of sleep, i have 5 children all under 9 yrs old and still take care of the family home, i do 3 nights a week, i dont drink caffinedrinks eg..coke coffee ect.. i dont drink often about once evry 8-10 weeks, my downfall is im a smoker about 10-15 a day…
whats going on there so scarey.. doctors in my local surgery told me there not life threatening there more annoying then anything eles…..
help…

Not VBAC Friendly…Help!!?

I had an emergency c-section (horizontal incision) in 2006 with my second child (my first was natural) because my cervix started swelling shut at 6cm (was told that they have no idea why this happened). I am now expecting #3 April 2, 2010. I am not very into the whole repeat c-section idea. Unfortunitally the nearest hospital that allows VBACs is just over 3 hours away. This is not feesable for me. I have a 5yr old and 3yr old and cannot afford to be driving there for every appt and then drive up there while I am in labor, there is just no way it will work.

I know that the hospital cannot force me to have a c-section but what should I do? Should I go along with my OB and schedule a c-section and hope I go into labor before hand? I feel like I will be missing out on a major part of the whole pregnancy experience by not going through labor. Has anyone else been in this position? Any ideas on what to do would be extremely helpful.

Ladies, if you’ve had an induced labor, what’s your labor story?

I’m overdue and my doctor just scheduled an induction for Monday. I originally didn’t want to get induced because of the risk of complications- I was hoping to go naturally- but it doesn’t seem like the baby is cooperating! He thinks I will be able to get induced without complications because I’m dilated to 2.5 cm and have had a very healthy pregnancy, but I’m still scared!

I’m hoping that some other moms who’ve been induced will share their labor stories with me to give me an idea of what to expect.

Do you get your epidural or pain killers ahead of time? (Can you? LOL) How long was your labor? Were there complications? Did you end up with a C section? If you’ve had more than one child, was your induced labor much different from your natural one?

Thanks so much!

So…whats so bad about having a section? Especially interested in how they affect breastfeeding.?

Before and during pregnancy I was all about the most natural of natural of everything. Now as I am getting nearer the end of the pregnancy I am more about what is best for baby and me. (Of coarse I thought natural was always best….) Doc wants to give me Cervigel on my due date as I have a clotting issue, and it can make the placenta wear out sooner than usual. I posted a couple few questions asking about it, and looking it up online at different forums and have found many to be against inductions because they yield high rates of Cesarean. Doc has told me that I was at high risk for a section anyway (he doesn’t think baby will fit into the birth canal..IDK why he thinks this but he does.) I don’t have a problem with having a section. My thoughts are: nice sterile controlled environment- I like the sounds of that— but evidently I am missing something as there are lots of passionate people out there. But I have not heard why the sections are so bad……..so ???
Especially interested in how they r/t to breastfeeding.
I dont know that I want one or that I don’t. It’s a cascade. I have a clotting disorder, I’ve lost 2 babies in the past and my doctor has been great up to now and got us this far. I trust him to see us through. So, when he says induction, I say okay. (I’ve read and knew it was coming.) Induction = increased risk of section. So that brings me to the section questions….I just want my baby safe, and really I think out of me is the safer place for her all things considered. But I am going to speak with the hospital today about if I have to have a section, can I keep her with me afterwards and being sure someone in my family reinforces the no bottle issue to them while I am in recovery.
Thanks mommy of 3, that is my worst fear with a section. I want to hold her and feed her and I am so afraid I won’t be able to for a long time afterwards. But I am so glad you did okay and are doing well!

C-Section Question #2?

I just found out that I am pregnant with my second child!! For my first, towards the end of my pregnancy I had problems with my kidneys and was hospitalized for most of my final months! The doctor decided one day that he was going to perform a c-section because of 2 maybe 3 failed inductions and the constant pain I was in … Do you think that I will have to have a C-Section again? I have been reading up and people say that it is a serious risk to try and have a natural birth after a C-section .. Anyone Know or have any advice? Will I be able to have my second child natural? Thanks!

I am due in a couple of days and….?

I can’t stop crying today. I want him to come out so my body can get back to normal. The helper I have for my other 3 kids just bailed on me. I am in pain and haven’t slept in 2 nights due to not being able to lie down, turn over etc…. You know the regular pregnancy pains you get this late.

I guess what I am asking is anyone experience an emotonal upswing before going into labor? I haven’t been into natural labor in almost 10 years and my other 2 were inductions for medical reasons. I didn’t feel like this before I had my last 2, so just curious.

No harsh comments please I feel crappy today as it is.

Thanks.
No one will take my girls for a sleep over all at once. My little ones are only 1 and 2 so sleep and relaxation is non existent at this point. Thanks for letting me vent. I really needed to and feel a bit better, but am still ready for him to come out.