
Maria asks…
Teens: What are your opinions on these controversial issues?
Okay I have a list of controversial issues and I’d love your opinion on them. This isn’t for school or anything just wondering your opinions.
1. Sex before marriage. What do you think of that and wearing purity rings too?
2. The invasion of Iraq/Afghanistan
3. Euthanasia
4. Abortion
5. Gay marriage
6. Should there be an age limit for having children not necessarily through natural conception ie having sex but through IVF?
My answers:
1. I think sex before marriage is okay. Marriage is just a ceremony and a certificate. If you love someone, have been with them a decent amount of time and respect each other and feel comfortable with one another it’s okay.
2. When it first happened I was too young to understand but now I don’t support it. When it was to get rid of Hussein I did but now that he’s gone all the troops need to get out, we’re causing damage (and by we I mean Aussie troops, American troops and any other country that is there). It’s sad but sometimes you’ve got to let it be, I’ve even heard on news stories Iraqi and Afghan civilians saying they want the troops to leave, they want to be left alone.
3. Euthanasia. I agree with but only in extreme circumstances. If they’re in a huge amount of pain and are going to die soon and there’s nothing you can do about either problem but assisted suicide shouldn’t be allowed. The person who assists has to live with it for the rest of their lives. But any other form in extreme circumstances should be okay. But the person who wants to die should prove they are in sound of mind to make that kind of decision, should have counseling before signing anything and be able to change their mind at any time/a time between signing and it happening.
4. Woman’s body, woman’s choice. But if there’s abortion then I think there should be counseling and a “cooling off” period people shouldn’t be able to walk in on a whim and just get an abortion because you may regret it after if you didn’t think it through properly. But I’m pro-choice either way.
5. I think gay marriage is okay. If two people whether they are of the same or opposite genders if they love each other that’s all that matters. By getting married or being together period they haven’t and have never hurt me or affected me at all. So why should I be upset by it?
6. Yes there should be. I was watching The View and they said something about a 70 year old Indian woman who went through IVF, she’s had the kid but now she’s going to die because she can’t recover from the treatment. So now that baby has to grow up without a mother and the chances of the kid ending up on the street is high because of all the poverty in India. It’s selfish on the mother’s part on any mother’s part getting IVF at 70 when chances are you won’t be able to care for the child through death or illness. Is that fair on the kid?
CR: I’m Australian too and heard about those deaths and all I can think is ‘what for?’
Michelle answers:
1. Sex before marriage. What do you think of that and wearing purity rings too?
~ I believe everyone should have respect for their body and mind, and wait until they are genuinely prepared for the potential physical, psychological, and social consequences of sex, and that each of us reaches that point of readiness at our own pace. Sex is the healthiest in all regards when it’s an act of love shared between two people, but I don’t believe a marriage certificate is a necessity. For one, considering that in the vast majority of states and in many countries around the world marriage is a right only given to heterosexuals, it feels like rubbing more salt into the wound discrimination to proclaim that sex, one of the most primal human functions, should only be practiced after a couple has legally wed. Yes, I realize that many of the people opposed to premarital sex are also against homosexual relations, but it frustrates me that so many stand upon the Bible like a soapbox instead of thoroughly reading it as supposed justification. I mean, it’s ironic to me that in America several of the states with the highest divorce rates and the most vocal opposition to gay marriage are in the “Bible Belt”, and Christ never spoke a single word about gays or “fornication” but was very outspoken in his condemnation for divorce. Secondly, marriage isn’t always the most sound option financially, and in this miserable economy there are even more compelling reasons some couples should not marry. Marriage is an exchange of debts and assets as well as vows. If one person has racked up tens of thousands of dollars in debt from living off credit cards after losing a job, then that debt will also be shouldered by his or her spouse. Even if one person decides to buy a house in her name alone, if she’s married and her husband ever foreclosed or has a spotty credit history, she’ll be less likely to get approved for a loan. Thirdly, where I live it’s far more common for people to get married in their early 30s or beyond than in their early 20s, and I don’t think it’s realistic to expect them to hold off until their wedding day to have sex. We all know that sex can lead to unwanted pregnancies and STDs, but many don’t realize that sex can also be extremely beneficial. It releases powerful neurological chemicals that can help to prevent or ease the symptoms of depression and boost happiness and self-esteem, it regulates a woman’s cycle, and has been linked to longevity.
Purity rings are a cheap marketing gimmick masquerading as a display of virtue. Jesus lived simply without false adornment, and believed that your actions were far more important than what you wore or said. A purity ring is not the same as a wedding band, which is a widely accepted symbol of marital status. In my opinion, it’s far more noble to donate the money you would have spent on tacky jewelry to a charitable organization.
2. The invasion of Iraq/Afghanistan
Both countries required an act of intervention, but not a long-term invasion without a solid plan of action and a clear exit strategy. If instead of using fear-inducing propaganda and lies about weapons of mass destruction to strum up support for the wars an honest explanation backed with substantial evidence and sound reasons was given for why it was necessary that other countries step in, I think the outcome and overall attitude towards the wars would have been completely different. I was just a kid at the time of invasion, but I remember the day it began vividly because my family and I were flying through the busy Atlanta airport on our way back home from a spring break trip, and someone came on the loudspeaker to announce that the deadline for handing over the weapons of mass destruction had passed, and we were now at war. Our flight was delayed, and for hours I watched the news that was broadcast on all stations throughout the airport. What stood out the most were the multiple interviews from Iraqis who now lived in America and were scared of what was to come, but felt like it was necessary for Saddam Hussein to be taken out of power, even if it came at a cost. Saddam was brought to justice years ago, though, and far more harm has been done than any good. The same is in many ways true with Afghanistan. The Taliban was our generation’s Nazis, and action was required, but the action that was taken was not the one that was actually needed.
3. Euthanasia
~ I’m in support of euthanasia when a team of trained, reputable medical professionals have thoroughly examined a person, and all have reached the conclusion that there is no chance of recovery from a terminal, painful illness. Living is not the same as existing. We shouldn’t force a person to continue to exist in perpetual agony when there is no hope he or she will ever genuinely live again.
4. Abortion
~ It’s not a choice I would make for myself, but I’m not going to deprive another woman of the right to make the choice best for her. I recently read an article about a ten-year-old girl in Mexico who is pregnant as the result of being brutally raped by her stepfather, and in her religious city abortion is illegal, so she has had to suffer the extraordinary physical and emotional pain of carrying a baby to term that she does not have the ability to provide for, and I think it’s a disgrace. Also, many women opt to abort after discovering that their child has a severe health problem out of compassion and a desire to spare someone they already have formed a love for pain.
5. Gay marriage
~ To me marriage has become like the 21st century version of segregated rights. I’m 100% in support of gay marriage. Why should someone else be denied a right I’m given simply because I happen to be straight and he or she is gay? For decades it was illegal for interracial couples to marry, and many fought tooth and nail to keep it that way. Just because a segment of the population is opposed to something because of their religious or moral beliefs or personal views doesn’t mean that they should make it illegal for others without any legitimate legal reasons. Laws should be based on justice for all rather than on the preferences of some.
6. Should there be an age limit for having children not necessarily through natural conception ie having sex but through IVF?
~ There should be an ethical committee reviewing individual cases before radical medical procedures are given to create a life. I don’t think there should be a set age limit because each circumstance can be different. It’s irresponsible and immoral to use extraordinary measures to enable an elderly woman to get pregnant, or someone who is not emotionally stable, like Nadia Shulman, the “octomom.”
Thanks for your thought-provoking question!!!
~ Peace : )