Mandy asks…
We have a baby, now what? Not sure where to go from here. Help!!?
My boyfriend and I have been together 10 months and have a 1 month old. (I know, I know, but I’m a responsible 26 yr old whose protection really did fail) My bf has been faltering about where our relationship is going. From the very beginning things were great, and seemed to be following the natural course of a long term commitment, with him hinting at a proposal soon. At 9 months of pregnancy I started feeling like he wasn’t as excited about our life together, and came right out and asked him if he wanted to marry me. He said he wasn’t sure. Now that our child is here he says he has “fallen in love with me again” and wants to get married after I told him I would rather be alone than to live a life of committing to him and the home we have made together with no commitment from him. Yet he still has not asked me. I’m just sad, I try to blame it on postpartum, but is this the end? I do not want to push commitment for our child. If anything I feel like if I wasn’t good enough before she was born, I’m not sure I want to be now. HELP!
Liza are you fucking nuts? Move in with my parents?! Did you read my question at all? I’m not a “young woman” I’m 26 years old! I have my own home and a great job. And “dr Laura” is a nutjob just like you who isn’t even a licensed psychologist! I already had my baby and adoption isn’t an option, and we are an intact family. Take your conservative crap somewhere else
Michelle answers:
Be careful. Make sure he wants this relationship for you not just because it’s the right/moral thing to do. Why rush into getting married? You hardly knew each other before, and now add a child, it puts your relationship more on the back burner. Do be aware your hormones are still trying to regulate this early postpartum, and concentrate on your new LO. I would say making any big decisions right now would be a bad idea, no rush, take this time to get to know him, could you see yourself raising a child with him? Could you see yourself ten years from now with him? Divorces are nasty… If you’re unsure it’s for a reason, take it a step at a time, get used to life with your new addition and take the time you need to recover after baby. Try not to feel pressured and see how things go, maybe he’ll turn out to be boy wonder or maybe not. Be selfish, just think about what’s best for you and baby.
Mary asks…
Best way to lose the baby weight?
My son is now almost 5 months old(on the 8th), and I have not lost all the weight that I would have liked to have lost by now. Pre-pregnancy I was about 130 pounds and 5’6 size 7 jeans. I gained 30 pounds through out my pregnancy and reached 160, I currently weigh about 150 and cant seem to lose the extra weight (mostly in my belly). Does anyone have a good exercise routine for this?
I both breastfeed and formula feed
by the way I eat normally 2 meals a day (Breakfast and Dinner, both are always all natural and I dont eat junk)
Michelle answers:
Do you see the box near the top of the page?
The one labelled ‘Search for questions: ‘?
Well type in ‘lose weight’.
You will find over 493,128 pre-existing questions.
Try the misspellings ‘loose weight’ and there are another 113,731.
In all there are over half a million Health section questions requesting solutions to being or thinking you might be overweight.
On average these each yield 6 answers, that is over 3 and a half million answers.
I can usefully summarise these answers in 4 words :
EAT LESS DO MORE. Are you desperate enough to try this???
James asks…
More time elapses between each of my menstrual periods?
Let’s start this off by saying. I just turned 20 years old. I have been sexually active for about 3 years. I have never been pregnant or had any children. And have never tried to get pregnant. And I have never seen a gynecologist.
Okay, I got my period when I was like 13 I think? I’ve always had fairly regular periods. (Usually between 30 and 35 days between each cycle). But about six months ago, my period began coming later and later. I thought that it was just a natural cycle change that I had heard about, so ignored it. About three months ago, my period suddenly came almost 3 weeks late! (Of course I was afraid so I took an at home pregnancy test and it came up negative). Then the next month it came 2.5 weeks late again. And then this LAST month I was expecting it on the 1st or 2nd of the month and didn’t start until the 21st! (Again I took another pregnancy test when it was very late). Then this month I was hoping it would be around the 21st, but again it has not come.
And no, it could not be any kind of STD, as I have been completely monogamus with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. (And yes, lol I’m sure he’s been monogamus too.)
Also, I don’t know if this matters or not, but I had some problems with yeast infections a couple years ago. (TMI right? I’m trying to be thorough! I can’t find answers anywhere else).
I am reluctant to go straight to a gynecologist because I do not have health insurance. But of course if it is EXTREMELY serious and only in that case would I cough up the cash to get down there.
Any help would be extremely appreciated.
Oh! ALSO, I don’t know if this helps, but I usually have a short flow, maybe 3 days max. And possibly a fourth day of just spotting. It’s also very light. And (i’m not exactly sure) but it seems to have gotten lighter since this strange time lapse has been happing. Thanks again!
Michelle answers:
Honestly, ive had problems with my period also. After many years of tests and a zillion doctors late, it turned out to be a hormone imbalance. Have ur doctor check your hormones to see if they are at the right level. Also, have u gained a significant amount of weight around all of this? That could also be why.
Are u taking birth control? Cause even though that doesn’t tell you what exact is wrong, it will help u even out ur flow. Hope this helps! Good luck!
Donald asks…
Need to put weight on a rescue Chihuahua, help please?
Just brought home a lovely 3 year old rescue girl from the pound. Earlier this month she was pregnant and in labor and delivery, everything went wrong and she lost the litter (pups stuck in birth canal, emergency c-section and spay). Owner surrender due to no money for the vet. I suspect they bred her with a much larger dog as it appears every bit of her went into making that pregnancy as viable as possible. Poor girl is bone skinny. Quite obviously at this point malnourished.
We feed our other dogs a high quality premium dog food (Natural Balance) one feeding, once daily. While I’m fairly certain she will gain weight back to a healthy level simply by recovering from the pregnancy and the spay and having a good diet, I’m thinking to encourage her further, we should allow her to basically free feed – something I’ve never done with dogs before. It will be a challenge, given the other dogs in the house, but something I’m willing to tackle for her.
Am I on the right track here? Any other suggestions?
Michelle answers:
Kudos to you for taking her in and being concerned! On the suggestion of my vet, I feed my very thin rescues with a high quality puppy kibble (regardless of age of the rescued pup). There are additional calories and immuno-beneficial componants. I will free feed them to make sure there is always food for them. Then I slowly introduce more age-appropriate food when they are gaining. It can be hard when you have different dogs with different foods, sometime you need to separate them or devise a way so that just the one can get to it. You definitely don’t want to have her on kitten food for more than 6 weeks, because that’s hard on her kidneys…. Good luck!
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