Steven asks…
WOW!!! Didnt think it would be this bad?
Well, I had natural IUI with donor sperm on October 12. I knew that the chance wasnt that high. I have no problems with fertility and ovulate on my own every month. DH is the fertility problem. Anyway AF came for me today and I never thought I could be so disappointed and hurt. This is only my first time TTC, but was really praying it would happen. We are not going to be able to afford to keep trying all kinds of things. I mean we are financially ok to have a child but if we drain our bank accounts then what. I am 31 and time is getting scarce with fertility. DH says that IVF is out of the question because of expenses and the risk of multiples. No way we could do multiples.
RE says we need to try a couple of IUI’s without medication because of my age and no fertility factors, but I dont think we will be able to do IUI’s for long. Has anyone been in the same predictament and do you think I should talk my doctor into giving me some medications to up my chances? Any help is appreciated and needed.
Thank you in advance if anyone helps
Michelle answers:
Honestly, to give yourself the best chance, I think you should do Clomid + IUI. Clomid will give you a couple more follicles than you make on your own and it will give them extra nourishment to really mature. Then you should add a trigger shot so that they all pop on ovulation day, not just one.
In the grand scheme of things, Clomid is the LEAST aggressive treatment. Your chances of multiples are less than 7%.
And Clomid is anywhere from $5.00 – $25.00 depending on where you get it. Again, in the grand scheme of fertility treatments, that’s really cheap.
Good luck.
James asks…
helllllllp me. DESPERATE for a BABY. husband seems NOT BOTHERED?
I’m a 26yr old female and myself and my husband are disputing this. Basically he wants me to wait to try for a baby until after I’ve completed a yr long education course that i am taking on next September. I do not want to wait this long. We have lots of money and hiring help is not an issue. I have a housekeeper and a nanny already. I just want to complete my family before i’m 30 and not end up being some sad old mum who has to revert to IVF (which we know doesnt work …ever) . I would hate to have to be so desperate as to pump my body full of drugs to do what is the most natural thing in the world for normal healthy woman. So hence, i do not want to delay this. Also i do not want some huge age gap between my children. They are 8yrs, 6yrs, 4yrs, 3yrs and an 18 month old. I’m just ready to make it no.5 NOW and perhaps finish my family at No. 6 by the time i’m 30, 31 AT MOST. Taking this on will not be a challenge. I have lots of support. The school and nursery is 5 mins walk from our home. My two sisters live around the corner, both stay at home mums. And i have a plethora of friends in the neighbourhood, all stay at home mums. Plus hired helps no problem, moneys not an issue. Whys my husband holding out?
Michelle answers:
Maybe cuz 5 is enough for him i would understand if u hadnt got any but u have 5 and like he said wait just alittle longer 1yr isnt bad than saying he doenst want anymore.so if i were u i would just be happy with what u have at the moment and listen what he says finish ur course which ur starting and then start trying…
Carol asks…
How do I handle the stress ?
I am really stressed and I don’t handle it very well, In the past few weeks I have constantly got head aches.. I have no idea how to handle the stress better, I am up to the point where It takes my breath away and I hypo ventilate and have like a panic attack. I have heaps of things going on in my life which is why I am sooo stressed out, just to name a few :
Money issues
Company my partner and I work for just lost the contract so might be out of a job.
We are TTC and I have blocked tubes, may have to have IVF, am going to the doctors about this.
Family troubles
Relationship troubles.
It’s really only in the last 6 months that it has got worse, is there any natural products that can help me? I’ve thought about going to see a councillor or something but I’m not very good at talking to people I don’t now, especially about personal stuff.
Thanks
Michelle answers:
Yes, you do have a lot going on that is stressful. Life can do that to you at times, so good stress management skills are critical. The serenity prayer (whether you are into praying or not) can be so helpful when you are bombarded with so many challenges. It goes “Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference” [If prayer is not your thing and it doesn’t set well with you to say “Lord”…you can omit that and use the rest as a mantra.]
This prayer gives you some great pointers on stress management. Recognize that you cannot control all the aspects of living, and you are one step closer to accepting those things. That frees you up to focus your energy on those things that you can change.
To work on those things you can change, goggle ‘relationship skills’. There are some great sites that offer worthwhile advice/guidance on building better relationships (with your partner, other family members and friends). Also a good idea to google ‘stress management’. The internet puts lots of information right at your fingertips.
As far as things you can take to calm you, there are plenty of options.
Chamomile tea is very soothing.
CalMag formulae are called the natural tranquilizer. Actually, the magnesium in the formula is what has a tranquilizing effect.
A good multi-vitamin, multi-mineral complex along with a B100 taken daily will strengthen your nervous system. Add an EFA (essential fatty acid), and you have a great trio for minimizing the impact of stress. It’s a good idea to eliminate junk foods as well…they deplete critical nutrients that leave the nervous system (the brain is part of the nervous system) floundering.
Forgot to include deep, deliberate breathing. When you are feeling extremely anxious, focus on your breath. Breathe slowly and deeply (it helps to put your hands over or on your head to open the ribcage and allow the air to flow deep into the lungs)…to a slow count of eight, hold to a slow count of four, then exhale slowly and evenly to a slow count of eight. Do this focused breathing for 3-5 minutes. It is very calming.
George asks…
TTC, irregular period?
I’ve had a MC around 9-10 months ago and ever since my husband and I have been ttc but without medical help(clomid/IVF)/ovulation kits and was thinking we’re either timing things wrong or I’m not ovulating on the right dates I think I am or I might not be ovulation every month.
We have sex like 2-3 times a week but around the time I’m “suppose to” be ovulating we try to do it every other day for a week or so.. Use a chart online that tells you the days that are good to conceive.
Tried the whole laying on back with pillow thing, yea that was a no go. Changing our diet a bit (eat healthier). I banned my husband from hot baths lol.. Haven’t tried any ovulation kits yet.. Just tried doing it the natural way of just timing it right. I just didn’t think I would have such a hard time getting preg. I didn’t know that trying to conceive for most couples was this hard, so I never really looked into kits and stuff but it’s been 9-10months and I’m thinking of doing something other then “timing things right”
Just wondering are these dates considered as irregular for periods? (dates mark day 1 of flow) Jan27, Feb 20, March 19, April 15, May 12, June 9, July 8 and today is the first of Aug I’m due to get it any day if I’m not preg.
Can someone tell me there experience with ovulation kits? And the best one to buy?
Thinking of waiting a bit longer to go to the doctor at least 12-14 months then I’ll go.
Thanks for reading 🙂
Any tips/suggestions are greatly appreciated
Michelle answers:
It actually seams pretty accurate maybe off a day or 2 a few times but nothing horrible. I would say if you completely miss a period during a month without being pregnant, that is when you should worry about irregularity. Try the ovulation kits, they really helped me! And they are just like taking pregnancy tests so they are non-invasive nor hormonal changing so I would consider them a natural form of predicting ovulation. Good luck and baby dust!
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