Ruth asks…
My husband wants to have a baby but I can’t?
I had my tubes tied 14 years ago and now my (2nd) husband and I want a baby. I had a child with my 1st husband but he made me get my tubes tied (either that or divorce). Since I can’t conceive naturally my husband has said he wants to get another girl pregnant. He said it would just be sex, no emotions attached and only for the pregnancy. He says it is not fair to him that we can’t have a baby together via natural means. He knew I had my tubes tied when we met. I keep trying to tell him there are ways for us to have a baby (IVF, surrogacy, etc.) but he doesn’t want to wait. I am confused about what to do. I could love a baby that was his, but I am having a hard time with the conception process he has suggested. What should I do?
Michelle answers:
Sorry about your situation, thats a real dilemna since if he gets another lady preggie that other lady with prominently feature in your hubbies life also (not a good thing) as she may take advantage of the situation and make your hubby fall in love with her.
I would suggest that you visit your gyneacologist and enquire wether you can have your tubes untied, i have heard it has happened before, if not talk to him about IVF he probably doesnt know how safe and practical it is knowadays.
Last but not least, if he truly loves you he should compromise and understand your fears….. But trust me, another woman in the picture…bad idea
Helen asks…
Has anyone had a baby with 0% morphology?
If so was it natural, insemination, or IVF?? How long did it take?
My fiance has 0% morphology, but i have been pregnant a year ago but miscarried.
Thank you for your answers so far girls xxx i wish u all baby dust
Michelle answers:
Hi there. I’m so sorry to hear about your miscarriage.
My husband has very low morphology as well, but we were told it’s not a problem because his volume and count were normal. Also, a specialist said that different clinics use different criteria for determining what’s ‘normal’ in terms of morphology, so if your fiance hasn’t already, it’s worth being tested again at another lab. (The Kruger Strict Criteria are particularly contentious, I think, as some specialists believe the criteria are too strict and exclude sperm that very well might be capable of fertilizing an egg.) Also men’s results can change depending on stress levels and other factors, so it’s worth waiting and being tested again (my doctor recommended waiting three months before being tested again).
Also, it’s worth exploring why your fiance’s morphology might be poor — the Mayo Clinic site below lists some possible causes, some of which (such as infection) look like they can be remedied. And even if the problem can’t be resolved, there is a procedure (ICSI) that can be used to overcome male factor infertility — doctors need to retrieve just one healthy sperm, and they inject it directly into the egg.
We haven’t managed to conceive, and we’re considering IVF, but it’s likely I have an underlying problem as well. If you conceived before, it seems likely that you will be able to again.
Best wishes!
Ken asks…
i was wondering about poly ovarie syndrom?
what is it and can it be treated to achieve natural pregnancy or is ivf the only option????? i’m only 22 and have polysycstic ovarie’s?
i gained allot off weight suddenly and had to shave every single day everywhere, they found i had this and they were my symptoms now fertility is an issue and i cannot seem to concieve because i do not ovulate at all…. can taking clomid help ovulate with this condition??
Michelle answers:
Your Dr. Will have more complete and better answers for you than anyone else on here could. There are a number of therapies. Yes, clomid can be one of them, but there are plenty of women who do not have to resort to using Clomid. Talk to your doctor. Has your Dr. Given a diagnosis yet? I’m worried you may just think ou have PCOS because you’re hairy. That very well may not be the case. Raise your concerns to your doctor and talk to THEM. There will be many tests you have to take and do that will determine the course of your treatment.
Sharon asks…
All women TTC, feel good and enjoy life.!!?
Well I have no question for you this time, Im TTc for 3 years now, tried almost everything IUI, IVF, natural stuff…etc I waited and time was killing me everyday was like a year and my life was just boring.!! days passing by waiting for my period and imagining symptoms and then disappointed and depressed for a couple of days, then recharge and start the battle again…
Still not pregnant, all what happened that I was about to loose my husband, not actually loose him, but I mean our life turned to be misrable me crying most of the time, sexual life only when Im ovulating and he noticed this and we werent enjoying it at all just a mission..!!
Finally I decided to stop it, I decided not to loose everything if im not going to be a mum, I’ll be a happy person a good wife and a succesfull woman…I have a great job now, my marrige life is wonderfull and days are passing so quickly, I discovered that my period is due in a couple of days…life is too short so enjoy it, Good Luck
Michelle answers:
Wow, that stinks that you’ve tried everything for 3 years to try to conceive and no luck. If you cannot conceive, maybe try adopting a child. There are a lot of adoption agencies that are looking for people just like you.
Yeah, my husband and I were trying to conceive in April 2007. We tried so hard that month and when I got my period in April and May, I was so disappointed. Everyone kept telling me I would get pregnant quick because I am young, even though I was on birth control for over 4 years. Finally, I told myself that I was sick of trying and that if it happens, it happens. When June 2007 hit, I waited for my period and it never came. I kept getting symptoms of my period like cramping, bloating and fatigue. After I was over 10 days late on my period, I finally took a home pregnancy test and it came out positive. I was so shocked I couldn’t believe it. I called my parents right away and told them and then told my husband when I got home. The only unfortunate part about this is that I am currently going back to school for massage therapy and not only am I worried about how I will deal with classes and a new baby because I won’t graduate until 6 months after the baby is born, I am also worried how they will actually give me massages in class when I am pregnant because you have to be specialized in pregnancy massage in order to give a pregnant woman one. I plan to discuss this with my teachers and see what they are suggesting I do. A lot of people keep telling me to not go back to school until after I have the baby, but I have too many times in my life started things and not finished them. This time, I don’t want to screw up and I have that feeling that once I would stop going to school, I will never go back. So, I plan to finish something that I started!
Good luck to all woman trying to conceive!
God Bless!
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