George asks…
How do you politely as can be, say no to a very pushy family friend ?
I have a long time family friend that is selling Wildtree products. She is a church patron, a family friend, and long ties related to me through a cousin of a cousin kind of thing. Her mom and my dad are friends. So anyway. She is pushing pushing pushing. First it was Natural Toys then Mary Kay. i was able to skirt that for a long time. NOW its WildTree stuff. Which is obviously a Pyramid scam. I hate that crap and normally would chew out anyone that offered it to me. So anyway I want to be nice and stop this in its tracks right now. Whats the NICEST way to tell her its a scheme, a fraud and I DONT want it. Dont ask again.
I am asking for these suggestions because, I was recently told I am too hormonal due to pregnancy, over active cause I drank coffee, and too abrasive. So I need help.
funny thing is I PLAINLY said no 2 times. She questions me as to why. I have a urge to go through a tirade with charts, and graphs and a marching band as to WHY. Though Shes not getting it. I need a new approach.
thanks Holly at least you get my abrasive humor on occasion though a few times I go overboard.
Is it safe to assume Jm E that your a guy? thanks for the vote of confidence and the suggestions. I a seriously thinking of writing it in the snow with dog pee on her front lawn, but I am turning a new leaf and being nice and cheery for the holidays. No more mistaking me for the pregnant, coffee drinking, baby endangering ogre that some people have painted me as today.
Michelle answers:
If someone is being that pushy, I have no problem getting rude with them and sometimes it is the only way. I feel no need to explain myself or my decisions, I am an adult. You of course have the same rights. You don’t have to explain your decisions on purchasing to anyone. Tell her bluntly, no and if she asks why, tell her you don’t have to explain your decisions to her.
And I wouldn’t say your horomones are taking you over! I am NOT pregnant and still don’t feel as if I should have to explain my decisions to anyone.
Helen asks…
Should a baby born as the result of a botched partial birth abortion be allowed to die by denying care? Obama?
A partial birth abortion is when a woman carries a baby to full term and begins labor or has labor induced prior to a natural delivery during her waning pregnancy. The baby is then actually “partially” born. The doctor/nurse ensures a foot, leg or some body part is still within the birth canal and a doctor inserts a large bore needle into the baby’s skull cavity and sucks out the brain. That exceeds the extreme of rationalization to rely on the technicality that a foot is still within the birth canal so it’s still a fetus and not a baby.
Obama supports partial birth abortion.
The U. S. Supreme Court has yet to hear any cases on the denial of care to a baby born due to a botched abortion where the delivery occurred so quickly, no body part remained in the birth canal and the baby was allowed to die via denial of care. One such case occurred in Illinois where the live baby was simply placed in a medical closet until it died. Prosecutors attempted to bring murder charges against those involved however, the courts dismissed the charges ruling that the baby was the product of a medical mistake during an abortion and could not be considered a human being for the purpose of having the human rights of a person or the constitutional rights of a citizen. The court ruled the baby to be an abortion fetus and thus it was not entitled to life.
The Illinois legislature attempted to pass legislation making the denial of care to babies born via a botched abortion process a crime and Obama voted against that legislation four (4) times.
That is a bizarre rationalization to the extreme in my opinion. What kind of human being can do such a thing to a baby? Answer: Barack Obama
Michelle answers:
Of course not. A baby is a human being wether he/she is wanted or unwanted.
Ruth asks…
Can Phobia of Being Pregnant Stem From Anorexia?
I have such a phobia of being pregnant and having children a natural way, could this irrational fear stem from my Anorexia that I was diagnosed with when I was 11…? I have normal periods now, so I’m guessing I have normal fertility, as my body is recovered, but my mind is far from. I still have a completely IRRATIONAL fear of weightgain, and the thought of the changes my body would undergo while pregnant absolutely drives terror into my heart and mind. No matter who I’m with, no matter how “worth it” some women (who have never experienced the hell of an eating disorder) say it is, I just don’t want to do it. And I’m scared I’m going to be so paranoid when I settle down with a life partner, that I’ll take pregnancy tests practically every time I had sex, I’d break down if I ever accidentally got pregnant, the terror I have of being pregnant could actually drive me to do some pretty terrible things…
The prospect of actual childbirth scares me as well; and I am so heartless towards normally conceived children. I talk about ‘foetuses’ and ’embryo’s’, not babies, I gag whenever I think of childbirth, I don’t view babies as little miracles, only a product of 2 mixed fluids, I don’t see the big massive deals made when a foetus for example, kicks in its mother’s womb…I speak almost with contempt about babies, and I realise that this is NOT. NORMAL. I feel so terrible. And like this anger is almost a defense mechanism.
This fear of pregnancy and having children the natural way has a name doesn’t it…? And can it stem from past Eating Disorders and Depression? (Both of which I’ve had). Thank you. xxx
Also, it doesn’t help that my mother thinks I am unutterably selfish for not wanting biological children and expects me to someday. 🙁
Michelle answers:
Well, generally if one has one irrational belief one is likely to have another. And your feeling about children is pretty normal for a childless person, I know I feel similar.
Donald asks…
Can Phobia of Being Pregnant Stem From Anorexia? (Other Women Who Have Experienced Anorexia…?)?
I have such a phobia of being pregnant and having children a natural way, could this irrational fear stem from my Anorexia that I was diagnosed with when I was 11…? I have normal periods now, so I’m guessing I have normal fertility, as my body is recovered, but my mind is far from. I still have a completely IRRATIONAL fear of weightgain, and the thought of the changes my body would undergo while pregnant absolutely drives terror into my heart and mind. No matter who I’m with, no matter how “worth it” some women (who have never experienced the hell of an eating disorder) say it is, I just don’t want to do it. And I’m scared I’m going to be so paranoid when I settle down with a life partner, that I’ll take pregnancy tests practically every time I had sex, I’d break down if I ever accidentally got pregnant, the terror I have of being pregnant could actually drive me to do some pretty terrible things…
The prospect of actual childbirth scares me as well; and I am so heartless towards normally conceived children. I talk about ‘foetuses’ and ’embryo’s’, not babies, I gag whenever I think of childbirth, I don’t view babies as little miracles, only a product of 2 mixed fluids, I don’t see the big massive deals made when a foetus for example, kicks in its mother’s womb…I speak almost with contempt about babies, and I realise that this is NOT. NORMAL. I feel so terrible. And like this anger is almost a defense mechanism.
This fear of pregnancy and having children the natural way has a name doesn’t it…? And can it stem from past Eating Disorders and Depression? (Both of which I’ve had).
Also, it doesn’t help that my mother thinks I am unutterably selfish for not wanting biological children and expects me to someday. 🙁 xxx
Michelle answers:
It’s called tocophobia, an infamous disorder, not many reasearches about it.
It has an established relation to depression and post-traumatic stress disorders, but eating disorders, not sure, although i remember once reading some freudian analysis about bulimia and mentioned there that it has a possible relation to tocophilia. So, why wouldnt anorexia have relation to tocophobia?
Is this phobia extensive? Like do you hate men too? Because in your case it will make sense if you were lesbian.
If you are not, then there is hope it would wear off with the right man.
You should check your hormonal profile too, most of feminine/masculine emotions have direct relationship to sex hormones. Tocophilia is a feminine trait.
I hope this helped and made sense, i’m sleepy
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