Do You Have to Pay To Be A surrogate mother?

I know that you get paid to be a surrogate mother although that isn’t the main reason I’d like to do it someday. I just think it would be so nice to help to help a couple have a child that they can’t have on their own.

I’m only 19 and not considering doing this any time soon but i am just looking for some information on it as I have been thinking about it lately. Do you pay for the medical expenses like the ultrasounds and the delivery? Do you have to put down a fee to become a surrogate or are you the one who just gets paid after you have been accepted as a surrogate. Are the decisions revolving pregnancy up to you or the biological parents? Like an example would be could I choose to have drugs with the childbirth or would I have to go natural if that’s what the biological parents wanted. Do you discuss these things with them or do you never even meet them? How does the process work and is there an an age limit on how old you have to be before they won’t accept you as a surrogate?

Pregnant and crying like a baby when husband leaves to go to work in the morning?

I just found out I (we) are pregnant. I am on an emotional roller coaster to say the least. When my husband leaves to go to work in the morning, I have started tearing up and crying like a 3 year old. I can’t understand why I am doing this. Is it just hormones raging mixed with some natural instinct or what? I also started breaking out and weeping in the middle of wally-world yesterday, looking at baby items with my grown 20 year old son!!!

This is my 2nd pregnancy in 20 years. (teen mom) I am happily remarried to a great man who will be 43 when baby arrives!

Let me tell you by the way, don’t let them ever tell you that you don’t “have it” anymore. I learned the hard way. Trust me, you can “have it”, until you don’t “want it” anymore. I have been a dance teacher / choreographer for 15 years and was on the pill and at age 39, am pregnant. So, if you think you are too old to conceive- wrong, wrong, wrong.

(What a hormonal rant that was, eh?) Thanks!!!
@Sara- Right? I will admit to being an already emotional person as well. It is awful though and no control over the tears!!! Thanks for understanding!
I heard a song yesterday in the grocery store and started crying in front of everyone! Yes, people were looking at me. I’m not even showing yet- except my painful, painful boobs!!! A mere word even…ah!
39 years old- FYI* (yeah)

Any other first time moms have baby number two on their brain?

Im a first time mom and absolutely LOVE being a mom. I have a fourteen month old daughter. I keep thinking of being pregnant again and having another baby. It’s a regular thought for me and it really got in high gear after I had a false positive on a blue dye pregnancy test a month or so ago. (((((YES! False Positives do happen, not an evap, a REAL false positive within the time limit.))))) Anyway, While I really think I want to have another baby I have a few things holding me back.

1. I rarely ovulate and don’t have regular cycles. Trying isnt easy when you have these issues.
2. We are considering selling our house and building a new one.
3. My daughter is so clingy and I feel almost like it would be selfish of me to have another one and take away that attention that I feel she deserves still being a baby herself. I know many people have babies close in age but the thought of me having to share that attention she gets being an only child makes me sad for her. She isnt old enough to understand the concept of pregnancy and having a new sibling.

Anway, I still cant shake the thought out of my brain though. I guess its natural feeling being in your childbearing years. Ugh.

So what does everyone else think of this?

Hi all,

Well my daughter is 5 years old. She was diagnosed with Williams Syndrome at age 2. It’s been a rough road here and there for us but we are learning to take one day at a time with her.

Recently back in January she started school. We are hoping to have her at mainstream school full time but took the advice of the special school she attended for kindy to go 3 days mainstream and 2 days special school. This worked great for 2 weeks. By week 3 however, all was not rosy! She really went off the rails and started to play up big time at mainstream to the point where she threatened to run away after the teacher already caught her once. It was so upsetting for us that week. After consulting with the special school again, we have dropped her hours back to just 2 hours mainstream school with one on one aid support every Monday and 4 days at Special School with the end result of hopefully increasing her time gradually at mainstream over the year and easing her into it. This last 2 weeks though, she has been great. We as her parents have also decided to treat her as though she has ADHD/ADD as WS people are prone to it so we decided to change her diet after getting comments back from mainstream that she was a totally different child after having some rice crisps that had a particular “natural” colour on them. We have since seen a dietitian who has also suggested we put her on an “elimination diet” which we will be starting next Monday. In the meantime though we have cut out all artificial preservatives, colours and flavours and already we have seen a huge difference in her.

I guess my question to all would be, with so many children these days being diagnosed with ADHD and ADD and other various behavioural disorders, would you be willing to change your child’s diet in order to avoid medications or would you just put your child on medications and hope for the best, forgetting that putting a child on meds doesn’t mean it will fix them as it could very well be the food we feed them that set them off and the meds and diet end up fighting inside your child’s body! After reading so much information and talking to this dietitian, it is frightening to realize how much “they” add and process our foods that are actually suppose to be “natural“. I know what we would do, and we are doing it. We want our daughter to be able to attend mainstream full time because she is not special school material, it has yet to be confirmed with an IQ test later this year, but we have been told she is only mildly affected with WS. We strongly feel that amending her diet will help with her already short attention span and behaviour but those who know a WS child or person, know that they are beautiful human beings that are so loving and affectionate, that’s what we want to shine through, not the behaviour. So what does everyone else think, diet change or meds?!

No rude comments please and any personal experiences in this area, I would love to hear. Thanx and sorry it’s a long one and I have put it here in Pregnancy and parenting as this is where I am most of the time. Thanx