Daniel asks…
Pregnancy books: Looking for one that…. (please read)?
DO NOT WANT BOOK THAT:
– tells me I’m stupid for breastfeeding and for having a natural birth
– going to make me cry, because it tells me just because I breathe or move I’m hurting my baby
– boring and dry to read, like a doctor’s book 😛
DO WANT:
– makes me happy for being pregnant, gives me tips for staying healthy, tips for those hard times,
– has got funny notes, maybe like Belly Laughs! The Naked Truth!
RULED OUT:
What to expect when you’re expecting.
THINKING OF:
Great Expectations by Sandy Jones
Pregnancy for Dummies.
WATCHING SOON:
The Business of Being Born, just because I really hate health businesses 😉
I want something I can easily refer to, say, “Oh! Nosebleed! Is it normal during pregnancy?” and I can go to the book and easily find out.
So what do you think?
Michelle answers:
Check out “Our Bodies, Ourselves: Pregnancy and Birth”
It’s a wonderful fact based book that reviews all aspects of pregnancy, including natural childbirth. It had testimonials throughout the book from women in each circumstance described.
I’ve read the entire thing and learned so much!
*** OH and by the way, ‘The Business of Being Born’ is FABULOUS. It made me absolutely positive about my decision to have a natural childbirth!
David asks…
Can I demand to have a Natural Birth even tho I “May” need a C-Section”?
I am 23 and pregnant with my first. I have had a text book pregnancy with no problems besides the heart burn and other symptoms.
But because the baby is feet first, they may do a c-section.
I see NO reason to do a c-section. I don’t want one and will do everything in my power NOT to have one. I want a natural labor (maybe pain meds)…I have till October but according to “Liability laws” or whatever crap they have, they will have to do a C-section if she does not go down head first.
People have been having kids for thousands of years..Why now is birth so “complicated and dangerous”
Can and I say NO C-section or do I have no control of my birthing experience.? We have very good health insurance-Blue Cross. So paying for whatever is needed will not be a problem.
Any advice.
I don’t want to sound like a Selfish mom.
I want what is best for my Daughter no matter what. But I think it’s way to soon to be saying things when I am only 25 weeks.
I love my daughter and her well being comes first,but also a c-section is a major operation.
Michelle answers:
If she’s feet first you need a c-section…If you REFUSE and throw a tantrum about it you are putting YOUR BABY at risk during birth just for your own selfish reasons……Doctors do things for a reason, your doc. Went to school and had been delivering babies long enough to know what is and isn’t safe for you and the baby.
I found out today at 39wks that I am most likely going to have to have a c-section because my pelvic bone is shaped abnormally and they are afraid the baby will get stuck..Do they know for sure? NO, do I want a natural birth? YES, but i’m not willing to risk my unborn child for my own wants so c-section it is for me.
I’m not trying to be mean, I am an LPN in RN school so I do know a lot of the risks, you or the baby could die or have serious complications….Just keep that in mind.
A c-section is a major surgery but if it’s the safest then it’s worth it. And since you are only 25wks the chances of her staying feet down is slim, i’m sure she’ll change positions before you go into labor, the doc. Was probably just letting you know just in case.
Nancy asks…
Me and my husband are following natural planning and I what I want to know is that can I have sex when I am no?
I am 26 and my husband is 33. I have checked on net and read books and according to that I know the days I am fertile and when I will ovulate but what I want to know is that can i have sex after ovulation. People only say about when you will be fertile how about telling when to have sex when we want to avoid pregnancy.
Michelle answers:
Now I will let you know about safe and unsafe periods.
Suppose your period starts on 1st April, and your cycle is 28 days,
Your expected date of next period is 28th April
Deduct 14 from expected date, it is 14th April, it is your ovulation day.
Sperms is shed in vagina will remain active for about 4 days could be more
Any intercourse done from 10th April, to 18th April may get pregnancy.
You see April 1st to 8th is safe, 9th to 18 th is fertile and again 19th to 27th is safe
I have made it easy for you to calculate yourself about your pregnancy.
Mandy asks…
Your experiences after childbirth and labor?
How did you feel after you gave birth (physically and mentally) Did you have a c-section or vaginal? Natural or epidural? I am 29 weeks 5days and trying my best to mentally prepare myself for the child birthing process…I know you can never REALLY be prepared as there is no such thing as a story book pregnancy and birth but I guess it makes me feel better due to fear of the unknown! Thanks in advance
Michelle answers:
My birth experience was FANTASTIC!!
I was completely horribly scared of having a vaginal birth (I seriously had horrible nightmares about it my entire pregnancy), and really wanted a c-section, but knew there had to be a medical necessity for it. Thankfully I did end up needing a c-section as my son never dropped into the correct position. I had no labor at all. The surgery went perfectly, and other than some expected discomfort, there was nothing I would have had differently. The surgery was a breeze…. I was up and around the following morning and had no complications at all…..the worst part of the entire thing was getting the epidural (because the resident doing it tried 2 times unsuccessfully so the attending physician finally had to do it a 3rd time for it to work). But even that part wasn’t that bad…… It hurt because the position I had to sit in, not the needle in my back.
If you do need a c-section, definitely don’t be afraid of it….. However, don’t be like me and be afraid of vaginal birth either…. I’ve had plenty of friends who pushed 3 times, had a baby, had no stitches and were almost feeling 100% normal within a few days.
As for physically…..you’re going to be sore either way it happens, and TIRED…. Because it takes a lot out of you. Mentally, I was elated….but still cried all the time about the littlest thing. The adrenaline that you have that first couple weeks is amazing…… I eventually crapped out and was exhausted, but I tell you what….. I never knew I’d be up for loads of laundry and cleaning the house top to bottom a few days after having major surgery and with the lack of sleep from having a newborn. (keep in mind, if you have a c-section you are NOT to lift anything heavier than your child in their carseat…. So no over-doing it on cleaning etc.)
Hope that helps, congrats on the pregnancy, and blessings on a perfect delivery!!
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