How does one find a balanced woman?

I recently moved to a new city (Houston), and want to know how to find a good woman.

Throughout my life, I’ve never concerned myself with falling into “the fad”. I have always preferred enjoying my life, instead of just getting laid (simply because that is what makes you a real man). From my perspective, most pregnancies are created by some dude who was just too lazy (or self-centered) to “pull out”. I am a 34 year old guy who has preferred walking a positive path, instead of just doing what it takes to “be cool”. I remember a friend in my hometown who had five illegitimate children before he was even 19 years old. Apparently, coolness has it’s price. Yes, I lost my virginity at a late age…but am an excellent lover to the woman that I’m involved with.

I moved from NC to TX for a few different reasons. One of them involves being altruistic while in a relationship where she took advantage of my generosity. We had a cycle that would never end unless I made this move. I have a natural tendency of forgiveness, and always expected her to change…by seeing what she was putting me through. This approach (apparently) did not fit within her scheme. I suffered through this relationship for three years, then decided to escape…because I knew she would eventually find a way to summon me back into her life.

I decided to try a website called Plenty of Fish, because I expected my true personality to grant me good results…plus I cannot afford to pay a membership fee to another site. The women I’ve sent messages to require that no man who expects nothing more than sex, even bother to contact them. Unfortunately, these women never reply to my messages. However, my profile clearly states that this isn’t my goal. It almost feels as if they signify that requirement as a way to invite the predators.

What I want to know is this:

Why do most women claim to want a good, honest man, when they ignore those who attempt contact? A good dude will always be around, if she decided to connect with him. What prevents her from doing so, and where can one search for a woman who will give him a chance? I understand the concept set by Sandra Bullock. Some women want an untamed animal to train…but where are the women that do not seek to tame the beast? Where are the ones who prefer a beast that is already tame…and seeks nothing more than peace and serenity?

I am not a fan of Religion, so church isn’t an option.

I don’t want to hit a bar for two reasons…..

One: I’m not looking for a one night stand.
Two: I do not wish to invite an alcoholic into my life.

I’m not some desperate loser who is looking for a quick fix.
I’m a positive soul that is seeking a good companion on this journey called life.

Where is she?

what can you say about Hypnosis in the Delivery Room/Labor Room

It isn’t for every woman, but “hypnobirthing” certainly has its fans, including Carla Breakey, a 38-year-old home business owner from Idaho. And rave reviews from women like Breakey are helping this method of natural childbirth grow in popularity around the globe.
Breakey used hypnobirthing for two of her three children. Hypnobirthing teaches women how to hypnotize themselves to manage their labor, helping them to relax and let their bodies take over. The theory is that, in the absence of fear and tension, severe pain does not have to accompany labor. In this calm state, endorphins — naturally occurring chemicals in the body that can relieve pain — replace the stress hormones that contribute to pain, proponents say.
“I enjoyed the experience a lot more and was a lot more present when I used hypnobirthing,” Breakey tells WebMD. For her first child, Breakey had a standard hospital birth with an epidural. That time, she says, “I felt like I was fighting the labor, and after the epidural was administered, I couldn’t feel anything, which was scary.”
That’s why she, along with her husband, Jeff, decided to try hypnobirthing for their second child. “I was very skeptical the first time, but the experience was unbelievable. I was relaxed, and it really does help with the pain,” she says. “With hypnobirthing, I felt confident, and when the contractions would come, they weren’t scary at all.”
And although some experts warn that undergoing any type of drug-free childbirth requires a high level of determination and commitment, proponents say hypnobirthing really can help ease women’s fears about the birth process.
“Hypnobirthing is a childbirth process that includes a major focus on many of the techniques used in hypnotherapy to relieve fear,” Pat Burrell, RN, a hypnobirthing therapist based in State College, Pa., tells WebMD. “It integrates factual information on the childbirth process along with hypnosis.” Burrell is also an instructor with the American Board of Hypnotherapy and an executive board member of the Hypnobirthing Institute in Epsom, N.H.
“Other childbirth processes approach pain as a given and try to find ways to deal with pain, from medication to massage, but hypnobirthing teaches women to transform the sensation of pain so that it feels like something else,” she says. “The healthiest way to deliver a baby is to be very relaxed and allow the body to do it. Once labor begins, it has its own momentum and mom really doesn’t need to do much of anything.”
Hypnobirthing can also be used along with other birthing processes ranging from Lamaze to pain-killing drugs, Burrell says.
Couples learn the technique by taking between four and six classes, starting after the first trimester of pregnancy. “The partner is the hypnotherapist and helps the woman get into a trance-like state, where she is fully conscious of what her body is doing,” Burrell explains. “She is very relaxed, which provides a safe and healthy environment for the baby and the mom.”
Burrell says hypnobirthing creates a strong bond between the couple as well as between the mother and her baby.
The cost varies across the country, and many insurance companies do reimburse for hypnobirthing classes, she says.
Debbie Wagner, a clinical hypnotherapist in Bellevue, Wash., has taught hypnobirthing to hundreds of expectant mothers since the early 1990s.”I have had great success with it,” she tells WebMD. “Many women have told me that they had a sense of control that wasn’t present [in previous births] after using hypnobirthing.”
But some experts warn that hypnotism may not be enough to help everyone endure the powerful pains of labor. Yvonne Thornton, MD, PhD, a senior perinatologist at St. Luke’s Roosevelt Hospital Center in New York, says she would counsel women to think long and hard before they decide to try hypnobirthing or any other method of drug-free delivery.
“If you really want to have a drug-free birth, you have to be committed to the program or technique because if you are not really committed, it’s a farce,” she tells WebMD. “Some people have a fairy-tale idea about the true nature of labor, but it is painful. It is one of the most painful crisises that the woman has to endure.”

I am a separated married woman in love with another man.?

I have been married for a little over 3.5 years. My husband and I have a two year old child together. My husband and I met about 5 weeks before we married(and I have to admit I think I rebounded on to him). Our relationship was a complete whirlwind in the very beginning, however it was not based on anything stronger than physical attraction in the beginning. I also have to include the fact part of the reason we married so quickly had to do with immigration paperwork, We eloped, but had a wedding six months later, and got pregnant only like a week and a half after that.

During my pregnancy I started to realize we had very little in common, but we still stayed together obviously…chalked it up to hormones etc. Then our little one came along and our lives became all about our little sunshine, and even less about each other. We rarely spent any alone time, and when we wanted to “go out” with friends we took turns staying home with our kiddo, mostly myself being the one who stayed home.

I was a stay at home mom, and over the last two years, I definitely lost a lot of my self esteem, as well as my feelings for my husband. I love him dearly as the father of our child, and as a friend, but I have NO passion for him. I haven’t been in love with him for over a year and a half. He is a wonderful person, and has done no wrong. I think this mostly stems from the fact we have absolutely in common aside from our son.

Here is the main issue, A few months back I began working nights at a restaurant as a cocktail server in the bar area of the restaurant. I started to feel better about myself having adult conversation again outside of home. My self esteem started to improve. I started making friends with some of my coworkers, and my husband began to be jealous of this, and resentful of me working which made me want to keep working even more. I began to look forward to more time away from him. One fateful day I was invited to an event by some coworkers in the beginning of August of this year, and ended up having a really long conversation with one of them. HOURS long. We hit it off immediately. We had/have so many things in common and there was unmistakable spark between us. That day was just friendly, but the day after that he and I agreed to grab a drink after work and talk some more…and ended up kissing. It has been all downhill from there, as we have gotten closer and closer, have gotten intimate, and have kept this up until now, which is about three months since it began. We have both developed extremely strong feelings.

My husband and I agreed to separate a few weeks ago and I have been living in my own apartment with my child and share custody with my husband. My husband wants for us to work on our marriage while we are separate, and wants to “go on dates”with each other, and I have agreed to this, but I feel like I am prolonging the inevitable. Since moving out I have felt so much better, and honestly I really don’t miss him.

MY question is, are my feelings for this other man just because of my own unhappiness in my marriage, or do you think there is a possibility of something special there some day? He makes me feel the way no one has made me feel in a really really long time. He is so vibrant and exciting, and fun, and he is very similar to me in personality without it being creepy. It feels so right and natural to be with him. Two nights ago, he told me he wants to stay friends but he can’t continue to be intimate because he hates being the other man and I don”t blame him. He really is a good person himself and feels miserable about being in the middle of my situation. Í feel like a divorce is in order, but I need to wait to file until I can get some things in order. I really feel like this person, is a person I could really see myself being close to in the future…maybe not right away due to the situation, but soon. I feel like I am losing my best friend because he is trying to take a step or two back. He says he will wait for me. Do you think that is true?

Anyone familiar with HCG weight loss diet and breastfeeding/nursing. Read on for details……?

If HCG is natural in the body during pregnancy and women breastfeed while they are pregnant, can I continue to breastfeed while taking HCG? Is it the limited diet that is dangerous or the HCG? My baby is 7 months old and eats everything and drinks formula during the day, but at night she nurses for comfort I guess. So her diet does not depend on breastfeeding. Is it still ok to breastfeed then? You can email me if you’d like to for more details. Thanks!