Michelle answers:

Yes your tubes can recover, read this

http://www.clearpassage.com/infertility/hydrosalpinx.php

Michelle answers:

Most doctors will want to do IUI first before IVF. Either way I am sure they will want you on some sort of meds to help boost your fertility and that will boost your chances. If you take Clomid or injections is usually for 5-7 days and that is it for the cycle. Even if you do IVF there is no guarantee for a boy. They do nothing to screen out the female embryos. I would ask your doctor what is best. They take into consideration your budget and schedule when deciding your fertility treatment. I didn’t have any weight side effects from taking these medications. I would ask your doctor about that.

Best wishes ttc!!!!!

Michelle answers:

My thoughts and feelings have changed along the way. When I found out I was infertile, after trying the old fashioned way for over a year, I turned to IVF. We learned it was our only option. My husband and I always felt we would adopt but after having biological child or two. We have not had a biological child yet and doesn’t look like it’s in the cards for us at this point. I have gone through 4 fresh IVF cycles and 1 frozen cycle. Two of those cycles failed and 3 ended in a loss.

As for the hysterectomy, I agree with Rocker Wife 100% about it not being an option for infertility but is an option for a serious medical condition (after a second or third opinion of course).There is talk among some women on a forum I belong to about having a hysterectomy after having a number of fertility treatments including IVF. Not because of infertility but because some studies indicate elevated risks of ovarian cancer with MANY stimulated cycles and these women are concerned.

I used to want to adopt an infant until I looked into it. There are huge costs (You can do 4-5 IVF cycles for the price of one adoption) and cons and risks involved and there is no guarantee that you will succeed. You can be matched over and over only to be denied. The application process is enormously lengthy, invasive, and delves into your most personal life and your friends and family’s lives as well. Also, I used to believe that there were a lot of babies in need of a family. There aren’t. For every infant put up for adoption there are 30 to 40 couples waiting to adopt. BUT, there are so many children in the foster care system waiting for a family. I have started the process to foster and am now considering fostering or fostering to adopt. I am just not quite ready yet. If I did adopt, I would be open about it. Not many understand what it is like to be infertile or understand the adoption process and I don’t hide it. I want others to be educated and so I have been an open book about my infertility. I have heard countless times “Why don’t you just adopt”. My heart breaks a little more every time I hear this. It is just because others are unthinking and uneducated. I educate them.

Please look into a support group, either online or in your area. I really like fertilethoughts.com and ivfconnections.net. I have met some wonderful women there, get great support, have learned a lot, and even made friends with some in my area.

I have 4 frozen embryos. I will use them for two more frozen cycles when (or if) I am ready. If that doesn’t work, I will think about fostering. I’ve thought about using donor eggs but came to the conclusion that that wasn’t for me. I wish there was a magic answer telling me the best way to go from here. I guess though like everything else, we’ll figure it out. I don’t know how much more I have in me. I’m 40 now and I feel it. It’s been a long road for me and I’ve been on this roller coaster too long and about ready to get off. I do, however, not regret the attempts I have made. I couldn’t live the rest of my life if I didn’t give it my best shot. My husband and I are very close and both feel if, in the end, it is just the two of us we are both very lucky. I think that for now I’ll just have a glass of wine while I’m thinking.

Please feel free to contact me anytime if you have any questions, need some advice, or want to vent. Be well.

Michelle answers:

My husband had abnormal morphology and i have endometreosis. We were unable to get pregnant for 3 years. My gyno sent us to a fertility specialist. He told us that with 4 iui attempts that we would have a 75% success rate overall. Prior to the iui i kept all my scheduled visits starting from day 1 of period. I had been on prenatal vitamins for about 2 months prior also. He put me on a low dose of chlomid and gave me an hgh trigger shot for ovulation. 3 days later we had the procedure done. Well, they told me it was slim to none that i would get pregnant on the 1st attempt, but i put my faith in god-not the doctor. After prayer and anxiousness, it was time for me to go in for the blood pregnancy test. I swore i was about to start my period, it was supposed to come that day. I felt like it was around the corner. Anyways, a few hours later they called and said i was pregnant!!! Because of my high hgc levels, they thought i was having twins. Come to find out, i have a healthy 8 month old little boy. He is our miracle baby. Don’t ever let anyone tell you it’s impossible, if you believe and pray, it can happen for you. It worked for me!!!